Too nice

LiL_TrUbLe · #1 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 01:26 AM

Does any one believe a guy can be to nice to the point where he gets on your nerves?

Ell · #2 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 01:33 AM

ive felt that way a few times.

maupassant · #3 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 04:46 AM

Surely it is better than being a right selfish git; it is no different from being an over-caring mum or dad in my opinion.

dancingdoc2 · #4 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 03:14 PM

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Originally Posted by LiL_TrUbLe

Does any one believe a guy can be to nice to the point where he gets on your nerves?

Oh, sure, absolutely. The question becomes why is he or what is he attempting to accomplish? Is it as simple as he is overly polite and caring? He wants something in return? He hasn't as yet learned boundaries and when enough nice is enough?

LiL_TrUbLe · #5 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 09:09 PM

How can you change that? (if posible)

Ell · #6 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 09:30 PM

You can't really change people. Which kind of nice are you talking about? Being nice to get what they want, or so nice that they let people walk all over them?

LiL_TrUbLe · #7 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 09:57 PM

I would say both he is to nice to others and well yea they walk all over him but he is finally realizing that’s not good and is working on it on his own

But its more like he gives me my way all the time he buys me everything I say I want even if its just something I see on ty and I say oh I want that but its just saying you know but he has to go out and get it but if I do something I know would bug him he don’t say nothing he gives me my way

Let me give you an example lets say we r debating about painting a room I want it pink and he wants it green and I know he don’t like pink but he wont say nothing he will just say ok we will do pink what ever makes you happy (me)

He wont say nothing at all and I know he has something to say but he just gives in and if he makes me mad he buys me something to make me happy again and if I say why did you buy me this he just tells me I was trying to be nice

I cant mention something because he wants to be the one to buy it for me

Ell · #8 (**permalink**) 07-10-2009, 10:29 PM

To me it sounds like he is agreeing with you to avoid conflict or he's just trying to hard. He may feel like he has to do those things to keep you. If he can figure out why he does this, he may have a better chance of improving on it. Maybe you two could talk more about it & see if you can figure out why he feels like he needs to do those things.

Hope this helps