How to break up....

[constantlylearning]

Not sure that I have ever heard of someone going back to a relationship (that they wanted to leave) over GOOD COOKING. Of course, there is always a first time for everything.

[YHeloThar]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

Not sure that I have ever heard of someone going back to a relationship (that they wanted leave) over GOOD COOKING. Of course, there is always a first time for
everything.

maybe i'm not really committed on leaving i dunno.

i feel deep down like if i had a younger, more attractive, never ever ever bitchy at all girl that wanted sex as often as me, then i would actually break up with her during those breakup periods. problem is she is so ridiculously nice to me when she is trying to win me back and i already can't help but feel sorry for her because i know a lot of the bitching stems from things that aren't totally her fault.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Let me paraphrase YHelo for a minute:

"maybe i'm not really committed on leaving i dunno.

i feel deep down like if i had a richer, more attractive, never ever ever jealous or bitchy at all man that wanted sex as often as me, then i would actually break up with him during those breakup periods. problem is he is so ridiculously nice to me when he is trying to win me back and i already can't help but feel sorry for him because i know a lot of the bitching stems from things that aren't totally his fault."

That's nice - staying out of PITY because doing so flatters YOUR ego.

[constantlylearning]

Seems there is some confusion at play here.......................

[EvilEvilKitten]

No, CL - my point - as always - is to consider how the other persoon views what you do/say and how you appear to him/her and to THINK, and if necessary to think again, about what you do BEFORE you do it.

If you break-up with someone over the phone or via text - you are saying that you do not have the courage to tell it to his/her face. Using 'distant' methods are only permissible if physical security is mandatory. Even if vast distances are involved and you break-up via letter, etc., a face-to-face meeting afterwards is still required when the parties are next in the vicinity.

Next point is - are you serious? Some couples like to play games and they do that idiotic 'break-up to make-up' thing or they threaten to leave if their needs aren't met - a power-play thing usually done by emotional vampires and bullies. DON'T degrade yourself by playing endless rounds of either. If you want to break-up - do it and be done with it. Waffling and being timid makes a guy seem weak and wimpy. Being a bully about it just damns you. State your case politely, with some grace and kindness, but then - just walk away and stay away.

Life is far too short to waste your time by staying with unsatisfactory relationships.

Say goodbye and get yourself gone.

[constantlylearning]

Life is indeed too short to wander in a relationship that simply is not good. That I agree EEK. Also, the endless games probably never accomplish much. Face to face should also be the best course of action. Once gone put it behind you and go on with life. Make your life the life you want it to be and always believe the dreams you have can become reality.

[lnt1103]

OK so it's time to ask yourself....if you recognize that it's not all your fault, what are YOU doing to rectify the situation? What are YOU doing to correct YOUR behavior that contributes to the problem?

[lnt1103]

I just reread my own post and it should have read 'if you recognize it's not all HER fault'