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Women, please help
I met the girl of my dreams 8 years ago. We've been married for 5 years. We have 3 children (4, 2, 1). Ever since our last child, the sex has dropped off dramatically. It is a combination of things - she is often tired from the kids and operating her own business, after kids hanging on her all day, she doesn't want to be touched by anyone else, stress, and lack of sensitivity. I feel there is little I can do for the mental block/aversion she has for sex now. As much as I hope she'd use sex as an outlet/ release, it just isn't happening. I try to help as much as I can with the kids and housework. And I constantly give her compliments and support, but usually that gets shrugged off, as if I'm just saying that so she'll give me some.
We have sex about once a month these days. Its always missionary, and I am not allowed to do oral or use my hands on her. She won't let me see her naked either-- just takes off her panties. She is rarely in to it - not like she used to be. I can tell the difference. Sometimes she doesn't really kiss me, or touch me -- although when she does, its great. She says she has a lot of scarring from delivering 3 childern so close together, and that it just doesn't feel that good anymore. I love this woman immensely, and while I try very hard to not push her, I really want to get closer to the way things they were. I don't expect sex every night, a different position each time. but a little more passion and intensity would be nice.
Are there any women out there that are similar to my wife. And if so, what advice can you give me? I feel like I'm annoying her anymore, and will eventually drive her away. But I love her, and want to show her. Sometimes I feel like we're roommates, not married. An its also discouraging that she only says "I love you" if I say it first, and never gives me a kiss- I have to give her 1. Thanks to all who can offer any advice.
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06-13-2009, 12:29 PM
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