sex always the same

[boringkitten]

I am one of the sad women who only have one orgasm. Everyone seems to say you need to get to know your body better. Tried that. Toys do not get me off, tried it too many times. Oral sex cannot get me off either. I am getting frustrated because I can only orgasm in missionary or on top and only once. I guess it's not terrible because I am at least orgasming, but I feel bad for my husband. He always wants to go oral on me, but I do not get pleasure out of it so I usually stop him even though I know it really turns him on. I also know he likes trying new positions and we have tried many on the site, but they really get him off, but none seem to do much for me. I am obviously sex challenged and need some advice because I really feel like I am letting my man down. P.S. I am really comfortable with him, so I do not think it has anything to do with feeling embarassed. I have had this problem with every guy I have been with and only 3 of them could ever get me to orgasm.

[dancingdoc2]

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[Brandye]

Well, you are better off than that quarter of all women who never experience orgasm. If you are getting that much out of it, why not allow him to enjoy other things after your orgasm. We women have the advantage of not being limited. Like you, I usually have one good orgasm and that is it; no reason to stop.You may surprise yourself in the process. And if you "waste" twenty minutes, nothing lost.

[Bote]

I recommend that your husband give Doc's motor boat technique a try. It worked fantastically with my fiancee. I was able to manually stimulate her to orgasm, but it took a heck of a lot of effort. This method is much quicker and surer with my gal.

How can i please her?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Boring Kitten -

women have four 'hotspots' that if correctly caressed will induce orgasms - that is to say flexing in the pc muscle. These are the clitoris, the G-Spot, the anterior fornix, and the posterior fornix. From what you have said, you orgasm from posterior fornix since both of the positions you mention can impact that area of the vagina.

Several points for you to consider:

Since orgasm is not required for reproduction, women have to masturbate to orgasm on their own to connect the hardware with the software - so to speak. Everything's there but the essential connections have not been made unti she masturbates to orgasm.

If a girl is sexually molested between the ages of 5 and 7 these pathways, see above, become warped making it difficult, even impossible, for her to orgasm later on.

You will notice that I am not asking you for confirmation. That is your business. I strongly encourage you to take whatever steps necessary should they be required.

The next issue involves something else, your view of sex, sexuality, and men.

You have to give up control to orgasm. This has nothing to do with him and how comfortable you are with him. You have to permit your body to overwhelm your brain - to give up control over yourself to yourself. You have to regard sex as a conflagration of souls becoming a glorious reaffirmation of life. You are a sexual being - embrace your sexuality and revel in it and in your prowess. Sex is good and pleasure is good for you. Give yourself permission to orgasm - because the wind blew the right way.

To this end, I encourage you and your husband to do The Program - slowly, taking your time over each step, and gradually sliding onto the next. Take turns doing this to each other. Put your brain on hold and just let everything go when it is your turn to 'receive'.

Do not worry about what he's doing where - just relax and let yourself feel.

[Venom]

Maybe you should that ky touch sensual massage oil. instead of for the vagina, i hear the stimulation of the breast get girls off

[EvilEvilKitten]

The Program; doing The Program works.

[Rouge]

A large amount of orgasm is in your head. Let him go down on you, and as he does think about how sexy he looks, and the fact that he's licking you. The more you work your mind, the better your chances.

I wouldn't suggest anal as a solution to this issue, as it's generally much harder for some women to have an anal orgasm than a vaginal one. Go home and spring on him, explain everything to him, and then think, think, think!! Turn your mind on first, then your body will be fine.