I don't know if this is the right place for this but.....

[sprtskhne33]

Hello, you might have seen some of my posts in the "new to sex" thread and I have some other questions that don't pertain to sex in general. My girlfriend and I have been dating for a year and a half now, and I truly believe that she might be the one. The problem we are having (or I am having) is when we started dating, she was in 10th grade and I was a senior. well now I'm off to college with a semester left and she has a week left in her junior year. I want to get some help with this. I want to propose to her, but not sure if now is the right time, to wait, or what? I'll be done with school this coming October and she'll be just one month into her senior year. I had some ideas but not sure if they'd work. I was going to wait until her birthday when she turns 18 in October, (she's only 17 and I'm 19 going to be 20 in September), or wait until her graduation party when she gets done with High School. And whenever I'll do it, I'm not sure how to do it. By the way, our two year anniversary will be December 7th. I'd appreciate it if I can some help. Thanks a bunch guys (and gals) in advance.

note: I don't know her ring size either.

[dancingdoc2]

Now is not the time to propose. Maybe in a year or so. You need time to get to know each other better. She needs at least a year after high school to learn about being somewhat independent; more to actually learn who and what she is to become as a woman.

The two of you are not only on different pages of life, you are in different chapters. You need time to narrow the gap.

Is she going to college? If so, I do not recommend adding marriage to the mix of things she has to deal with and learn to cope with. She also needs time to find herself, as do you. SLOW DOWN, if she is worth marrying, she will be worth marrying in two or three more years. What is the rush?

> I truly believe that she might be the one.

Another reason to wait is because you are not drop dead certain. Until you are, do not ask her to marry you. In fact, I recommend that you return to the basics because dating should not begin and end with the first warm body who expresses an interest. Dating is all about learning what humanity has to offer us in potential mates. Date lots of different people and learn about personalities, characters, quirks, likes, dislikes, goals, objectives, morals, etc. The more exposure you have, the better able you will be at determining when Ms. Right comes along. Your girlfriend may just turn out to be the one; yet you will never know how great the match unless and until you date others, also. So, my recommendation is to keep on dating her and also date others and see where the process leads. In the meantime you are giving her time to grow and mature.

Please read this article:
I think we are ready to live together!!
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The information is valid for couples planning marriage.

The process of maturing into an adult from childhood is a ten year process. It does not happen as a result of going thru puberty, thus the teen years. You have much to learn about the process as well as about yourself, also. If you are continuing with your education, then do not burden yourself unnecessarily. If not, then you need to sow some oats as the saying goes, work, save some money, take a few vacations, and become established, first and foremost. Jumping into marriage with nothing more than a few dollars, some debt, and high hopes is a very poor formula for success.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Short answer: NO!!!!

Long answer = what you are doing is trying to hold onto something from the past because leaving home and going out into the world is "scary". Yep! This girl is your security blanket hence your uncertainty about proposing. Because if she were 'the one' - you'd not be in here asking this question. You'd be proposing. So you, in your heart of hearts, already know the right answer. Remember: if you have to ask the question, then the answer is always No.

[troyndheather]

yeah make sure shes really the one get to know her better in the end you will be glad you waited