Wealth and Dating

[funinthesun]

I have my own thoughts on the matter but am curious what the opinions of people here are.

When one is very wealthy( > M's) , how does it affect your attitude towards dating? (purposefully ambiguous)

[funinthesun]

Odd, browser crashed in the middle of typing this post and I didn't get back to finishing it yet it posted when I crashed. Ignore the post please.

[leeishere]

Whilst I am not quite a millionaire, I do have enough to be seen as wealthy (at least for my age). A couple of years ago I had a bad experiance with a woman basically gold-digging me.

Since then I have always hidden the extent of my wealth, and sometimes my job from dates until I really got to know them. I guess this has probably made me seem a little guarded and slightly distant at times.

One of my friends is millionaire though, and regularlly goes out on excessive 'flouting the cash' lashes. He fully realsizes that anything he picks up is a fling though, and is very carefull to not end up paying any more than he wants.

[Brandye]

No man or woman I have ever dated has had a net worth equal to mine. None of their business. I doubt that many have ever become aware.

[wet_suit_one]

Brandye, you're a doctor though right? Very few folks (if where you're from is anything like where I'm from) make as much as a doctor and accordingly, very few have a net worth of any measure.

Myself, I'm barely more than a starving student these days, though once upon a time, I was 1/4 of the way to a million. Those were the days.... Sigh...

[Brandye]

The point is, money should not matter. It should not even come up until thingsd get quite serious.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Finances are not anyone's business until you're due at the altar.

[funinthesun]

Thanks for the replies. I should have edit cleared the post instead of replying to not worry about it. The question was an incomplete thought that I meant to finish and post later. As for actual dating and wealth, I don't pay any attention to it.

My family was poor but with education being extremely important they worked to send me to one of the wealthiest schools in the country. The resulting juxtaposition of days in the richest and evenings in the poorest parts of town as well as a similar situation in college with millionaire roommates has made it very clear that it has nothing to do with the quality of a relationship and can only, at best, be used as a distraction from real problems.

The reason I originally asked was out of curiosity what mechanisms people happened to have in place for quality control when they were often viewed as potential sugar daddys/mommas. I've recently developed a product that generates lots of interest from vultures and I've found that the most difficult part of business isn't creating or marketing the product but finding good and honest people to work with when very large sums of money are involved. A friend made a comment that I was "the new innocent hot girl in town that everyone wanted to trick into bed" and it made me think of this place.

[Rouge]

I make quite a bit of money, and as such keep it very quiet. My current partner isn't nearly as well off, but I view it as a plus. I have dated people who had money, and I found that I didn't like it quite as much. We'd go out to fancy places for dinners and whatnot, but it lacked the same effect that my current partner has. If he takes me out to a fancy place (with a sizeable bill, and he refuses to let me pay) he has to save up for it, and focus on the event itself, whereas those people I've seen with money were able to do it as a spur of the moment activity.

I much prefer that he has to plan it in advance, and take the time to set it up. In addition we find other things to keep us busy.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Quality in partners is determined by actions. Therefore, you invite partners into your life as you wish to live it and see if they can deal - as judged by what they do in response. How they look and what they may say is of little consequence.