waiting for what?

[thegunguy]

My wife and I have been together for about 3 yrs now. We are both young just reaching 20.

I have had other women before my wife but I was her first. I would like to play around a little more, but all she wants is the same old thing. Missionary position in our bed. She has been giving me this line "When we get our own house..." you fill in the blanks. But she blames it on our not having our own house. Well we just bought a house. Now I'm wondering, When we move in will she hold up to her word or do you think there's something deeper?

[dancingdoc2]

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> My wife and I have been together for about 3 yrs now. We are both young just reaching 20.

Out of curiosity, how long have you been married?

> I would like to play around a little more, but all she wants is the same old thing. Missionary position in our bed. She has been giving me this line "When we get our own house..." you fill in the blanks. But she blames it on our not having our own house. Well we just bought a house. Now I'm wondering, When we move in will she hold up to her word or do you think there's something deeper?

Oh, more than likely there is something else going on. My guess is there are any number of "what if's" playing in her mind, mostly dealing with how she sees herself and how she envisions you seeing her. Only she can tell you for sure what is going on and I'd certainly ask, although, be prepared for little or no insight. My first thought based on phases teen girls go thru is that she is body image issues and/or self confidence issues that only maturity and "life" will help solve.

Also possible, although, maybe not as common is the fact that her limited excursion into love making has to do with lessons or ideas passed along by parents, church, and/or culture. Moral values may play a part in why she is so restrictive at this point. None of us can say for certain, and I'm only passing these ideas along because one or more are a part of a young teens life.

I recommend that the two of you go to the Index found at the top of the main screen and read each of the articles listed on the two pages more than once. Had I to venture another guess it is that she is probably timid and this shyness is keeping her in a comfort zone of activities. If she believes that intercourse is is somehow dirty, or sinful, other than for procreation, then she is going to have to talk to a professional about how making love is an outward expression of the love a couple has for each other.

If you want more information on sexual positions, please go to the site's Home page and click on the illustrations. All are animated! You will gain ideas and she may expand her knowledge and awareness.

Until you can provide more information I don't think we can offer much more help.

[LickMyGamete]

So..in 3 years, you have never once slipped into another position? I don't mean anything exotic, or over thought out..just things that flow out. You know, like shifting one leg over hers, or holding her legs, or wrapping your arms underneath her arms and pulling her at her shoulders towards you, or holding yourself up and your body not even touching hers while you...

Basically, there are a lot of variables and slight things that can be done to change it up,,I don't see how someone can get stuck within it.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You married an inexperienced woman and you expect an instant "freak in the bed". You are insane.

Think back to your first time. Remember the mistakes and how clumsy you were. Remember how insecure you were and most likely still are.

As to male superioer being boring: well, can you stroke her G-Spot with the head of your penisaand get her to orgasm that way? No? Then perhaps there's more to this position than you thought. How about the anterior fornix? Can you stimulate her posterior fornix? All of these hot spots are best reached and stimulated from this postion. Rather than worry about her not doing whatever - think about how many orgasms she's missing because of your lower skill level. You are the more experienced partner after all.

Yes, of course she has issues. 1. privacy, 2. body image, 3. newly married, 4. she's only 20, 5. she's inexperienced in all of this.

And she's relying upon you.

Go find the sticky posts entitled Body Worship and The Program. Study and have fun practicing.