Wife doesnt care for foreplay! HELP!

[pilotguy]

My wife and I have been married for a year and a half and we have been together for 4 years. We have talked about this and she has admitted to me that she doesnt like foreplay! She enjoys sex once we get to it but it is hard to get her interested. She is somewhat of a prude and does not like to watch porn and is one of the women that is not sure of herself or the way she looks. I think she looks great and I tell her this often. I need some help and advice please and thank you!!

[nuttychick]

A prude because she doesn"t like to watch porn ?

Ut oh I'm a prude lol

Have you read the Stickies there is a whole lot of
great information in there

The Program

Oh and as a matter of interest... You have been together for 4 years
how long have you known she does not like foreplay?

[pilotguy]

well I guess I didnt mean it exactly like that! haha sorry! Many of the suggestions I have read involve trying things like oral and toys and she doesnt care for either. Im willing to try just about anything and she is alot more hesitant.

[nuttychick]

Body Worship How-To by EEK



Oh and as a matter of interest... You have been together for 4 years
how long have you known she does not like foreplay?

[pilotguy]

well I guess I didnt mean it exactly like that! haha sorry! Many of the suggestions I have read involve trying things like oral and toys and she doesnt care for either. Im willing to try just about anything and she is alot more hesitant. I would say that I have known that she doesnt like foreplay for about the last year, but we were not sexualy active until we were married.

[dancingdoc2]

how about some guidance with flight planning?

What I mean by this is in learning or relearning or tweaking what you know about how to romance a woman, make love to her from the thought of a "flight" to the actual takeoff. Much has been written and there is much to learn about all this in the Index found at the top of the main screen.

Planting the idea of an adventure often begins the morning of or even day before by saying something or giving her a card with the idea of making love in it. Learn how to romance a woman and get her interested in and thinking about making love with you later. Once you have her attention, learn how to fool around and make out. There is much to do before getting to the Foreplay stage. Much time needs to be devoted to Necking, Petting, Heavy Petting, all before Foreplay, and then all of this during oral and a hand job, then, finally, intercourse.

I believe much can be learned by reading the many articles listed in the Index. At the very least, they will provide plenty of background information and any knowledge is empowering. If your wife is at all interested in spicing up her sex life and yours as a couple, you can do a lot with these articles, first. I would also recommend some books on the subject. Go to the library and find some on relationships.

When a relationship is not working well, sex is 90% of the reason, yet when it is working, sex is 10% of the reason. This is why I am placing more emphasis on the relationship than the actual sex. (Re)learn how to woo and wow her and play to her emotions, her psyche, and her desirability. Making love has more to do with a woman's emotions than the physicality of the process.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Unfortunately, most men just roll over and accept whatever Ms. Prude says. Well, this will only make it worse, in time, as her list of 'what I don't like' grows longer.

Why did you wait until married to fool around? Because she wanted to? This is the outcome of that 'patience'. You're now finding out that she has issues regarding sex and are stuck with them. (This does work both ways which is why I always took men for a spin before getting into a relationship with them.)

The Program (see above) will take care of your problem. Use it slowly and take care (and notes) while doing it. The gradual increase in intimacy should be matched by her gradual increase in desire.

[LickMyGamete]

Maybe try addressing WHY she isn't sure of herself? Does she exercise, is she healthy, could there be anything emotionally wrong, etc etc. These questions should be answered before simply labeling her a "prude."

Also, are you sensitive to her needs, or do you just slop down porn in front of her and expect her reaction to be the same as yours?

[wet_suit_one]

I wonder what a self respecting man is to do in such a situation? (note this is a thread hijack comment, but I am really interested as a corrolary matter. There is a thread on respect so you could post there on this).

As for the OP, my 2 cents is "What EEK said."

Men, we gotta stand up for what we want. Women want sensitive caring souls. They fully deserve them. Men want a freak in the bed. We fully deserve them too.

'Nuff said.

[EvilEvilKitten]

WSO- we each seek what suits us best and work to achieve satisfaction for both partners.