Wife doesnt care for foreplay! HELP!

[qcumbr1]

Have you ever tried having a few glasses of wine before sex-time ? Perhaps the drinks will loosen her up a bit.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Q - depends upon what you want: a woman who can absolve herself of any responsibility ala "well I had a few so one thing led to another" or one who realises her error and fully embraces her sexuality and the sexuality of her partner.

[pilotguy]

The drinks do loosen he up but they also put her to sleep after just one or two so that doesnt work real well! haha I think the main reason she isnt really sure of herself is that she has put on alittle weight since we first met but I have too and I still think she looks very beautiful and sexy! She is getting better and I am working on myself to, so we will see how things go over the next few weeks. Just out of shear curiosity and im sure I could find this on another thread but how many times a month do you have sex? Thanks!

[dancingdoc2]

"Normal" is what is right for the two of you right now.

Frequency depends upon sex drive as well as age, as well as the newness of the relationship, as well as..... Each couple is different, each member of the couple is different and often the frequency has to be negotiated.

There is no one right answer to this question. If the two of you do it once a day, once every other day, once every few days, once ever week or ten days, and/or multiple times a day, these are all well within the standard of normalcy.

Making love is the outward expression of the love a couple has for each other. Do it as often as your love needs expressing.

[EvilEvilKitten]

LOL - how often do I have sex in a month? 26 times on average; ranging from 30 minutes to 4 hours at a time.

You could say that every now and again I give the men time off for good behavior.

[vibrator]

That's a tough situation. It sounds as if your wife maybe just not sexual, but you should have been aware of this before you got married. All you can do is to continue to try to make her comfortable.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Doing The Program and Body Worship will change her mind not only about foreplay but also about sex in general and about sex with you in particular.

Seriously - most women are taught to use sex as a reward, a prize, a tool to manipulate men. They are told this is how they get children.

What women are NOT taught is that sex is fun, that sex is a joy in and of itself.

This is reinforced by the mostly inept men they get with. So women play the game and then say enough and go celibate. Even married women do this.

By doing The Program and Body Worship, you cn reignite, and reinforce the message that sex is a conflagration of souls and an absolute joy and her birthright.

[the-wanting-one]

1 thing that has worked for me is putting foreplay in the middle of sex. It took a while for me and my wife to get to the oral stage while we were dating. We had foreplay, then sex to climax. If your wife is oppsed to foreplay, such as oral, then start with intercourse as she wants it. Once she gets aroused, use the heat of the moment to try something new. I would do that, sometimes bc I was close to cumming, so I'd use my hand awhile on her. Eventually the break in the action gave me an oppurtunity to move my head down past her breasts, all the way down to the point she let me perform oral on her. Once she realized she enjoyed it, it became part of foreplay. i hope this will help.

I have no ideas to get her to watch porn. My experience has been if a girl is against porn, she'll stay against it.