Advice Please - 2yrs together sex going nowhere

[sunflower87]

I'm asking for almost the same thing on my column! But as far as getting her to go down on you.... I had the same issue before my current boyfriend. I hated giving head because I had a terrible gag reflex and the men I was with would always push my head down too far for comfort or hold it where I didn't want it. I hated feeling like I didn't have control over what I was doing and the pace. The man I am with now... one of my favorite things to do is give him oral pleasure! He never pushes on the back of my head or pushes his dick into my mouth unless I instruct him to do so (lately I've been so freed that I like things I hated before). I got over my horrible gag reflex because of the calm atmosphere, also (I used to have to run and puke!). The best thing that he does though is he is very animated about the experience. I can tell when he really likes something or when it's more of a filler spot or move right before I go for a sweet spot. He uses encouraging dialogue too, makes me feel like I am a sex goddess or something. I even have felt comfortable enough to lick his balls (I mean face in and everything) and tease the lower areas with my tongue and fingers. She needs the feedback to feel like she has control to make you cum when she wants you to... that way she can make it 5 minutes or if you've been a good boy then maybe hours some day =)

There is definately hope though. I used to puke and HATE it and now I willingly do it multiple times a week (often spontaneously)

[EvilEvilKitten]

You should have spoken up way before now, sunflower. If a man does something like that - all you have to do is to shove him or his hands away, growl, and apply a hint of teeth. Or, if you want to be nice about, just stop doing it when he tries to take control.

[sunflower87]

yes, before the man I have now I had rarely provided the service because I would get mad about that stuff. I was starting to think that all men were just that way and I wasnt the type of girl to do that for some one. That's my advice to this man... is that maybe his girlfriend has had similar experiences and needs to be shown that the experience can have a turnaround for her.