A date with my husband (VERY long post, sorry)

[NewlyPassionate]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

There is a daily dose Cialis on the market now that may work better for him.

Thanks - he's on his way to the doctor in about 5 minutes, and I popped back here to see if anyone had a recommendation.

Now, let's talk seriously about sex.

Are you using all four of your hotspots? That is the clitoris, the G-Spot, the anterior fornix and the posterior fornix. If not, why not?

I just...um..."discovered" 3 out of four of those last November. I mean, I knew something was there, sort of haphazardly/accidentally over the years, but it was never anything I could reproduce. Now I can. (I introduced him to the anterior fornix a couple of weeks ago - was a real "Holy shit!" moment for him. )

Are you two following the steps outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program (see above) and taking turns 'leading'? What does HE want/need?

The Program was my first thought, but he specifically said "no scripts!". We'll see what he thinks after our date.

I don't think that he knows what he wants/needs. Honestly, though he's worked up some enthusiasm for this, if I changed my mind, I don't think he'd be disappointed...he'd probably be relieved. I'm hoping to change his attitude.

You could also visit www.wickedwomangruoup.us to get a new perspective.

I'll check that out. Thanks!

[dlb]

If he gets erections whether piss hards or any other sort, he does not need viagra, cialis or any other such product! A natural erection is a natural erection. I say he should stay away drugs he does not need. Perhaps NewlyPassionate working on her appearance, not to mention overall health, through weigh control and the fact that they are both apparently exited about improving the quality of their sex life will be enough psychological stimulation to keep him hard for sex with his wife.

I have nothing against medications which actually serve a purpose as long as they are used properly. If he is having erections without ED drugs he doesn't need the ED drugs. Ask a licensed sex therapist or a urologist.

[NewlyPassionate]

Originally Posted by dlb

If he gets erections whether piss hards or any other sort, he does not need viagra, cialis or any other such product.

Wellll, hope you're right. lol.

He went through four years, when we were having sex regularly, where he couldn't maintain an erection without Viagra.

Alas, the doc wants him to have a full physical before he re-prescribes, so we're almost SOL until next Thursday. We still have our one, six-year-old Viagra, so maybe tomorrow'll be fine.

NP

[EvilEvilKitten]

Look, do The Program to him first without telling him. Just begin with a back rub, gradually increasing the pressure until he's nice and all relaxed then segue into erotic massage then body worship, etc and so on - he'll be SCREAMING for you !! LOL

And that's the last time he'll be talking about "no scripts"


you can vary it from time to time and either gender can 'lead' on this

[dlb]

I am not an expert of any sort on the subject of erectile dysfunction. Last year I experienced a couple of cases of soft off, loosing erection during the act, and it was soon after a period of extreme physical and mental fatigue.

I think the physical your doctor suggests and probably a visit to the correct specialist are in order.

[NewlyPassionate]

Yeah, we sort of practiced last night (he was all squeaky clean for going to the doc yesterday), but I couldn't even get him there orally. I can actually still get him off, though I didn't last night, it's just that it's not hard enough to...do anything else with. We had fun, though - laughed our butts off. He told me I needed to buy him a cock ring. I don't think I've ever heard him say those two word before.

This morning, he woke me up with a nice surprise - which we *still* couldn't do anything with - and that's the first time he's initiated anything in years, literally.

Well, off to the showers and to make a sacrifice to the pharmaceutical gods, hoping that 6 year old Viagra hasn't lost it's efficacy.

EEK: Will give it a shot (so to speak.)

NP

[Gibson52]

EvilEvilKitten

You must know how to work the clock, or these are some special guys (50 something) that can do 4 erections/ejaculations in 45 minutes. Wow someone is amazing here!
I have never tried Viagra and wonder what it might do? Would it make for a longer erection time? Would it slow down a premature ejaculation?
As I get older I am not sleeping as well. But on rare ocassions I have a really good night sleep and wake up really really hard. If/when that happens, I know that I have had a great nights sleep. Any herbal/vitamin recomendations to increase performance (erection time) ? Or is Viagra the way to go for a man who wants to stay hard longer and avoid a premature ejaculation?

[wet_suit_one]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

There is a daily dose Cialis on the market now that may work better for him.

Now, let's talk seriously about sex.

Are you using all four of your hotspots? That is the clitoris, the G-Spot, the anterior fornix and the posterior fornix. If not, why not? Are you two following the steps outlined in the sticky post entitled The Program (see above) and taking turns 'leading'? What does HE want/need?

I ask because my experience with 50-something men is nothing like yours. I'm talking 4 complete erections/ejaculations in 45 minutes. A day's rest and then do it again. 12 hours of sex each week per man.

You could also visit www.wickedwomangruoup.us to get a new perspective.

Anterior fornix? WTF is that? Dang, I learn something new here everyday. EEK, you're a jewel (a hard edged jewel, but a jewel all the same)