Anal?

[Rouge]

YEs, he definitely has to use hands. He needs to hold it at the opening while he pushes forward, or the lube will seriously mess with you guys...as it has been. He should keep his hand there until the first few thrusts are gone.

[chanz2011]

You must talk to her that anal sex very painful to you and explained that the time will come to do that anal sex.......when he not agree with that i think you must move on the guy like that is only sex find not love....

[wantingmore]

I am not here to dispute any of the previous posters but CuteOne it is very obvious in your own words what the deal is..."Can't Stand It!"...You don't want it, don't enjoy it, not to mention you have tried it and it hurt. Once you experience pain your brain is very imprinted with that sensation and the activity associated with it. You burn your hand on a stove, you are not about to try it again to be sure it hurt...right! While I get that this is not the same as a burn, the imprint in your mind is the same. You will probably always associate anal sex as being painful. In the face of that pain your body will become tense and respond to any advances by clinching your muscles making it impossible for you to receive any penetration with comfort.

As a woman that enjoys anal, it is much in the relaxation and stimulation of your body. If not aroused, I am the first to admit that it hurts...on the other hand, when done right it is amazing!

If you are that into testing the waters again, (which BTW I agree that you are allowed to set boundries with your own body...you own you!), start slow, small & VERY lubed. If it's not for you then so what...there are too many other wonderful things to explore than to get hung up on your ass.

[lisa4daz]

i was prob more intrested in this than my partner... it was jus sumthin i had 2 do... i was really scared but i guess i was that curious i felt i had 2 find out 4 myself...
and with loadsa lube and majorely relaxed!! ... it was actually nowhere near that bad..i mean 1st tym round.
now i actually quite enjoy it.. as my partner stimulates me at the same tym which further relaxes me.
i think everyone is different so itll take alot more to get certain ppl that relaxed enough to enjoy it.. however it is possible.

[EvilEvilKitten]

And if you DON'T want to then DON'T do it.

There is no reason why you should have to do anything in particular if you do not want it or do not enjoy it.

There are plenty of other ways to have fun.