Can it be over?

[odis85]

good job!!!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Excellent!

[Dbondjuk]

Yes, it was so fun I'm going again tonight and probably Wednesday too

I have a question though, do women like it when you start dancing with them then touch them and move closer? I think of myself as too much of a gentleman sometimes because I think it's wrong to just "touch" a women, no matter what you are doing, dancing or not. I know women like confidence, but that is the only thing that is holding me back really, grabbing a girl and dancing with her sensually after we sorta start to "connect". If that makes sense to anyone lol...

This probably isn't the place to post this, but I figured one of you out there has an idea of whats going on at a club haha.
;D

[EvilEvilKitten]

Always best to let her make the first move, hun.
So let her touch you. Invite her to do so.

[Dbondjuk]

Well, the way I have been approaching it was: I keep my distance, but close enough for people to know(and her) that I'm dancing with her. Then I move closer after a few minutes and kinda inch my way inward to her and see what happens. So far I haven't really danced with the same girl for more then 10 mins. =/

I think most of the women there have BF's or something though so i don't do anything dumb. I'm not there to get my ass kicked lol. I think I just need to figure out a place to ask a girl out, then take them there to have fun. That would be most exlint. ( yes i know is spelled it wrong, random inside joke thingy :P )

[EvilEvilKitten]

You must go to different clubs than I do. Having a bf or husband at my clubs - will not get your ass beat - quite the contrary. MFM anyone?

[Dbondjuk]

Well I doubt I'd get my ass kicked lol, I guess I worded that wrong.
Anyways, I don't think I'm going to go anymore until I have a girl I can ask out to go there. It's usually a TON of guys there and like not so many girls. The girls that are there are usually with BF's or with huge groups and form dance circles, which are bad to jump into lol.

I dunno. Last night I kinda felt weird because my friend i went with his fiance and i was getting shot down by girls because they have BF's or something but meh. I missed my EX a lot last night to the point to where I pretty much wanted to leave, but I stuck it out. I ended up dancing with my friends fiance because he didn't really want to go on the dance floor. I had a good time with her, but I'd like to have my own so i can get closer to her and such :P But yeah, this is one thing I've wanted to do with my EX and it sucks that I can't =/

I have a feeling that as soon as I find a girl to take there, I'll feel so much better about everything, but getting to find that girl is hard. It's like i completely forgot where to meet girls lol. Club is defiantly not the place though.

[sweetnothings]

If you want to get close to a girl at a club, dance close to her. If her friends pull her away from you, then don't try again. If she is still there with you near you can go in front of her and take her hands after a while if she is giving you positive feedback. Then you can get a little closer and all that. If a man tries to dance with me and friends pull me away, it's a bad sign if he keeps coming back. If you are able to get to her without being walked away from, then you're fine. Make sure you respect her and do not try to touch her too intimately (butt, legs, etc) because you could freak her out. After a little dancing try talking to her, you might get a number after a while...

[Dbondjuk]

Yeah this is what I was doing. If I can get them to dance with me for a long period of time with out walking, or at least if they say hey im tired, id be golden. I guess I could relate this to a job interview. For me, it's hard to get interviews, but once i get one I'm in for sure. I have a way with words I think, I dunno. But yeah, I have been dancing with them, if they don't walk away I keep dancing with them. I have been expecting them to get closer to me, but if they don't, i get closer to them after a few mins. Also, I've been told by many people that the club i go to isn't very good at all, but its the only one in this town. The next one is an hour or so away hah, but that could be a weekend thing.

I wont get up so, its all in good fun for me. Besides, when they walk away or they friend pulls them away, it's a good laugh for me and my friends to see how many times it happens :P

All in good fun though heh.

[dancingdoc2]

Somehow I missed this--musta been when I was having a problem logging on after the site maintenance. You've asked a good question; I may make this into a Sticky.

"Closeness" and how to initiate touching has been covered in at least one Sticky post listed in the Index. Here is the general rule:

Let me preface my remark by telling you that I am a Ballroom dance instructor so we do touch each other in a typical dance frame embrace all the time. A woman knows that this is going to happen so there is no surprise even if it is her first dance lesson or dancing with a particular individual.

Rule #1: Women set the distance between them and their partner(s). The normal "comfort and performance" distance is a hand span measured at the body's core or abdomen. More advanced dancers will often dance with an embrace that touches each other. Tango in all of its forms is a much more intimate dance and a closed embrace from above the abdomen down to the thighs is standard.

Now, for non Ballroom type dancing the first rule still applies. If you are just out there shaking your booty I doubt there will be much if any touching unless it is to take her hand and lead a turn or some other pattern.

Rule #2: If you are dating someone new, let her indicate her readiness to hold hands or be touched on the shoulder, or waist, first. Of course, you can offer her your hand and if she is ready and willing she will take your hand and this opens the door for more hand holding, and later, more intimacy. She, on the other hand, (pun if any intended) will make the first move by touching you. That done, the door is open.

Speaking of which--absolutely do not place your hand on her buttocks until the two of you have established some foundation for this by working up to this level of intimacy by holding hands, placing an arm around the shoulder or waist, first, and for some time. If and when she does permit a hand on her bottom, manners or social etiquette dictates this may not be appropriate in many public settings--like walking down the street or an isle in the mall.

> I tried dancing with them but they prob had BF's. Another girl was walking by and i started dancing with her in the middle of her walk and she joined in, but....

Rule # 3: ASK a person if they would like to dance with you. Make no assumptions or interrupt their walk across a room by just strutting your stuff in front of or beside them hoping she will join in. I am unfamiliar with club etiquette having never been to one. I used to think this was an east coast or big city activity; however, even here in Sacramento, clubs have recently caught on.

Lastly, speaking of manners, please refrain from using four letter words in your posts.