Trying new things

[Headrrrthefreak]

Me and my fiance want to try some new things in our sex life.
We are not sure what exactly want to do but I would like to try a threesome 2F1M, and he doesnt think that he could do it because seeing another woman naked in his bed would be different.
I dont want to pressure him into it, but I think we need to do something out of our ordinary sex.
What's some things we could do, and how could I get him to agree to it?

[sarah_rsl]

Originally Posted by Headrrrthefreak

Me and my fiance want to try some new things in our sex life.
We are not sure what exactly want to do but I would like to try a threesome 2F1M, and he doesnt think that he could do it because seeing another woman naked in his bed would be different.
I dont want to pressure him into it, but I think we need to do something out of our ordinary sex.
What's some things we could do, and how could I get him to agree to it?

If he doesn't feel comfortable with it, then don't do it. It's not worth risking your relationship over what is essentially a bit of fun.

[dlb]

This is the first time I have ever heard of a young man not wanting to at least try a threesome, especially with two women!
It is possible that his uncomfort at seeing another woman in the bed (with you?) is in fact an insecurity that 1) you will see how much he is turned on by the other woman 2) you might enjoy yourself with the other woman more than with him.

When you are a a deep, serious relationship this sort of experimentation requires absolute trust between partners and absolute confidence in oneself also.

If either partner has any doubts or insecurities then it is better to not venture there.

If he has never said-no, no way, never ever-then you could try bringing the subject up again later to see if he might be flexible. If he still says no then let it rest.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why do you feel you have to do something different in bed???

Before you go rushing off into threesomes, etc. have you two REALLY explored all of the possibilities between you two? Most likely not. It may very well be that both of you need to improve your sexual skill level. Before you go running, learn to walk.

Please find, read, and do what you will find in the sticky posts "The Program" and "Body Worship". Take this seriously and really work at finding out if he does like his fingertips lightly nibbled or not.

Sex should be a glorious reaffirmation of life.
If it isn't, then you're not doing it correctly.

[dancingdoc2]

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> I think we need to do something out of our ordinary sex.
What's some things we could do, and how could I get him to agree to it?

Go to the library and check out a copy of "The Joy of Sex". In fact, this book has so many interesting aspects of making love and expressing it that you should probably go to your local bookseller and purchase it. Brandye states that it will keep you busy for ages.

Threesome? I agree with dlb; moreover, unless and until you know each other very well, are very very comfortable with each other, and, yourselves, trust each other completely, you should probably not go there unless your relationship is a FWB and the sex is just for the fun of it. You must have a very solid relationship for a threesome to have a chance of being successful. Often the result is discovering insecurities and flaws in what seems solid and this can jeopardize your relationship.

You may never get him to agree with a threesome in which case just keep this as a fantasy. You can role play and have him act the part of someone other than himself for starters. The same goes for you with him. As for getting him interested in spicing up your sex life, begin by reading the articles listed in the Index, going to this site's Home page and experimenting with the many illustrated animated sexual positions, asking each other what sorts of things they like or might be interested in trying.

Bottom Line: Explore and learn together as a twosome first and foremost.