pre-mature ejaculation

[dylan79]

This is a bit embarrassing for a guy to admit, but I don't last long enough when my wife and I have sex. I used to last longer when we used condoms but of course they don't feel as good and more importantly my wife doesn't stay wet at all when I use them. I would say I can last about 5 minutes if I go slow and if I go fast about 5 seconds lol. It just feels so good, that I can't control it, is there a way of controlling it?

I can last longer if its the second time but she only likes doing it once if at all, so other than masturbating before everytime, its not really an option. Any thoughts on how I can last longer, I tried stopping last time, and taking a break but she wanted to keep going. We are very busy people and she doesn't like to spend a lot of time having sex unfortunately.

[dancingdoc2]

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The Index lists lots of helpful how-to articles and there is one on this problem.


Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

Please read this article and if you have specific question, just ask.

[Brandye]

I have, as a woman, helped a partner with the squeeze training. It worked well. You do not need a cooperative partner to get the good from it.

Incidentally, a study last year (interview only and not quite scientific) asked several hundred women how long their last sexual encounter lasted from insertion. The vast majority of the answers ran from 3-13 minutes. You are not in such bad shape!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Dylan - your wife only wants once? Buddy, your problem is not "pre-mature ejaculation". Please see the sticky post above entitled The Program and do it with her. I say this because the most common cause of sexual boredom and so on within a marriage stems from a certain degree of shyness and miscommunication. Sex should be a glorious reaffirmation of life that you both cannot get enough of to the tune of 3 to 4 hours at a time three times per week. If you have children, you may get less than that but the intensity should be up there nevertheless.

By following The Program you two will find and work through the real areas of difficulty so your sex life can become that totally enriching experience as described above.

[dylan79]

Well when you work full-time and you go to school part time its hard to have sex for 3 or 4 hours, there just isn't enough time in the day

[EvilEvilKitten]

work = 8 hours, school = 4 hours which = 12 hours; that leaves 12 hours free every day and you have the weekends as well. It all depends upon your priorities.

[lipsofanangel]

they do make creams that will help 2 desensatize u 4 a little while so that u can last longer, lol

[dancingdoc2]

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Originally Posted by lipsofanangel

they do make creams that will help 2 desensatize u 4 a little while so that u can last longer, lol

Here is an article with techniques that work and are FREE; moreover, they give you full control over each situation and do not affect your partner.


Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controlling Premature Ejaculation

I hope this is of help.

[godogsgo2008]

I would try EMLA cream...try westcoastskin. It numbs the head and shaft causing orgasm to be delayed. I would also STOP masturbating, at least quickly. Many times this is caused by the learned response from masturbating. Men sit down to spank it and what is the goal...to cum. There is no thought process of how good the strokes feel, no changes in speed or depth, etc. You should try to masturbate and take a good hour to do it...take it slow, pay attention to the sensations, when you get close, hold the base of your penis and do not move, wait until it subsides then continue. Eventually you will retrain your brain...worked for alot of people.

[EvilEvilKitten]

godogsgo - that's Edge Play training - he should try The Squeeze technique before going on to Edge Play.
But frankly, if his partner is getting bored, he has more than pre-mature ejaculation to worry about. She should be 'absolutely screaming for him' before he goes for penetration - and this is what The Program does.

The Program is designed to relax your partner, then awaken his/her senses, and then ignites his/her desires like nothing else can. In my 40 years of enjoying sex - I have found nothing works better. Please note that The Program is not gender-specific. Anyone can use it on any willing partner.