Dealing with Adultery

[EvilEvilKitten]

The trouble is that now this notion of exclusivity has trickled down to DATING and many people assume that you should only date one person at a time; not because they've given any thought to the issue but because they assumed that is how dating is done or that is how they, or their parents, did it. They think that playing the field is wrong - for some reason. So you see those who are dating accusing their partners of cheating and so on as if they were married already.

If love and sex went together then all prostitutes would be married to loving spouses. Face it - you don't even have to like the other person to have sex with them. Some people cannot even remember what their 'lover's' face look like or even remember his/her name. For you, it may seem different but love is not sex and sex is not love. Consider that you love your parents and your children. You may even love your dog. But you're not having sex with any of them!


USAF; not the Navy.

[KissMeHard]

Wonderful EEK, simple and to the point! Most of the time, a divorce comes from a lack of compatibility, ego, and security issues. I definitely agree that if there is no love in the marriage, than don't stay, as painful as the experience is the long term situation will eventually become unbearable for both individuals. It is sad to say, but we as a society, have become fixated on the old standards of fidelity. We worry about the perceptions that others will have of us as a whole. It seems that everyones view of marriage is different and mostly relies on how the individual was raised.