I can't help it... Im more horny than him...

[PolicePresence]

I understand how you end up comparing your present partner to your ex. I also had an ex for over 10 years and she was always sexually "interested" and oftentimes was the one suggesting sex either through spoken words or by subtle touch. My wife today is far less interested in sex and has only twice in over 10 years even been the one to get things rolling. She responds to me when I'm interested, but I miss the part where you get pursued once in a while.

People were posting comments like "it's not fair to compare your present to your ex" but the fact is we all do it. And if things are lacking in that area compared to the former partner, you're going to think about it even more often. It's human and we all do it.

With that said, I think talking about it candidly with him as others suggest is probably your best bet. I hear about guys with low sex drive and it's bewildering to me. I wish I didn't have such an insatiable sex drive because at times it becomes a burden, particularly if your partner doesn't have the same drive that you do.

And every guy knows that a woman with a high sex drive is going to want more than 5 minutes. Give me a break! Perhaps there's something else bothering him that's not coming out in your post.

Bottom Line: Why put yourself through the torment? Talk to him and lay your needs on the line and ask him why he can't sustain himself for the time that you need him too. Of course do so tactfully and lovingly.

When you look at the time that the average American spends in front of a TV set each week, ask youself how it is that some people can't give their significant other the sexual attention that they seek. Of course the other option is that it may be a physical or psychological issue, meaning that maybe it's time to talk to a professional.

[SoFreshSoClean]

Just be blunt! Flat out tell your guy listen....We have a problem,im way more sexually aroused then you and i want more....Tell him "You really dont want your girl to be walking around horny all the time do you?...so handle ya buisness"

[EvilEvilKitten]

Great. Wear your hair big and chew gum with your mouth open while you say it. Make an impression.

[wet_suit_one]

EEK, you are too funny!

Say, have you started writing that book yet? Let me know the title, I'll be the first to buy it!

As for the OP, sigh.. Why o why does this stuff happen? How can a grown man enter into a marriage and not know a thing about pleasing a woman? It's part of his duty to please that booty (Shaft said it best I tell ya!). Dumb men. Don't we know anything???

[EvilEvilKitten]

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[pink_menace]

you have a really boring marriage life....
you're amazing you still can hold it....
you must try to communicate with him and tell
him about your fantasies....
don't be shy...you can do it...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Then there's the question regarding "your girl" - seems to me that he is your fella just as much as you are his girl - considered this way, he's playing games much like some women play with their mates: using sex as a weapon/bait/reward. You really are going to have to talk WITH him about this. Counseling or divorce time!

[wet_suit_one]

EEK, thanks for that! I will be buying!

Cheers!

OP, rape your husband. No one will believe him anyways so you're safe on the legal front! Heck, if you need to, bring a friend!



My god, I'm a terrible human being... LOL!

[EvilEvilKitten]

LOL@WSO

of they'd be envious "he got some!!!"