Double standard (women advice helpful)

[djseeho]

My wife and I have been together for six years. She is bi-sexual and we tried a threesome with one of her friends about a year ago. We haven't done it since because our marriage is most important to us, and we wanted to keep it to an once in a great while event. She does want to have another one, but has also brought up giving her a turn with a male. I know if I am getting my fantasy it is only fair she gets her's. I just can't help, but feel different. Since she is bi-sexual she plays a lot while I am with the other girl, such as caressing. She never just watches. If I bring in another guy I feel I would be on the sideline since I do not have any interest in fooling around with a guy. I would be more a spectator than a participant. How can I be fair about this without getting Jealous or feel left out? I love my wife and want to give as much as I receive.

[2little]

this is why you need to communicate before you do something like this....

all i can say is tell her your concerns after that she may be ok with just another girl if she loves u as much as u love her i can't see her getting all pissy about it

[lnt1103]

Yes, communicate. While I've never been into the threesome thing, my first idea was, could you play with HER while she's with the other guy?

But at any rate, talk to her about it.

[addicted2cuck]

Communication is the key. Maybe she wants you to watch. Maybe she wants you to participate. Much fun can be had with a MMF situation. A woman can easily please two guys at once - with both being homophobic. How about her sucking you off as your friend does her doggy? How about you licking her twat while your friend plays with her tits? Find out what she wants! Do what she wants as long as it doesn't freak you out. The rewards will be worth it. Keep an open mind and get rid of any preconceived notions.

With an open mind, you may find out that you really like sloppy seconds and/or creampies.

[Brandye]

The one regular here whom I would really trust on this is evilevilkitten. I have never engaged in multiples and am aware of many that have ended badly.

[smallestoftheclan]

I agree with Brandye, EEK will give you the best advice. My two cents, because you know I have to voice it. If she is bi-sexual and then she is getting the bringing her two worlds together. You not being bi-sexual bringing a second man into the mix sounds like it would be uncomfortable and you need to voice this to your wife.
Is she in a relationship with a woman, with your blessing? Remember that once you go there you can't go back.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Rid yourself of the idea that bi-sexuality is mandatory for a 3-some.

Because it isn't. The reason why they said "talk to EEK" is because I do 3-somes, 4-somes, more-somes and I have the time of my life doing them! And I am not and never have been at all bi-sexual.

This is how one does a non bi MFM: You and she BOTH hunt for the second man together. BOTH of you have to approve him. Do not select a man who is inexperienced when it comes to group sex. Two inexperienced males would doom the event. BOTH men are to focus upon the mission which is to provide the maximum pleasure to your wife. SHE is the only person who matters in an MFM.

Now then, you and your wife begin with foreplay, this starts as soon as the man has been selected and the date set up. You talk and tease about the upcoming event. You bring in light food and beverages for it. You put on clean sheets - all is kept playful. Once there, she gets undressed first, then you guys slowly remove your garments and you get with foreplay but husband first - the second man comes in after the husband.

Now you can do fellatio and penetration, cunnilingus while the other guy comes in from behind, anal sex and vaginal penetration simultaneously, or you can take turns with one man resting up - using the second man to keep her warmed up and rolling.

Please note the lack of male to male direct contact.

Condoms are mandatory and lubricant helps.

Now then, the interaction between the men has to be one of colleagues yet the second man has to take a slightly subordinant position to the husband. It is a very fine point so his experience level has got to better than yours. He has to get his attitude just right.

As far as your attitude goes, you are the man whom she has selected above and beyond all others. You are SHARING not as a gift to the second man but to HER. This is your gift to her. Just as your FMF was a gift to you. There is no reason to be jealous, even if he turns out to be bigger than you are, because YOU are the one she's going home with while he gets kicked out.

For more information please consult your local Lifestyle/swing group.

[djseeho]

Thanks for all your advice. I have talked to my wife before I wrote this. You guys were right EEK did have the best advice. Yes a MFM can be done with no MM contact where my wife would be the star, but when we had our FMF I was not the star she was. It was how the other girl and me could please her. I am also know he would be kicked out and I would stay, not worried about. I guess I am just like a 4 yr old and have to touch whoever she touches, and I can only do that if it's another F. EEK also mentioned consulting my local Lifestyle/swing group. How do I go about finding such a group? Googleing only brings up porn and pay sites like adultfriendfinder. They are not in the yellowpages.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You actually begin with adultfriendfinder which isn't only a for pay site. Many people there can point you where to go in your area.

That is because you two didn't run your FMF correctly - you ran it as a bi-FMF where you could have run it as a non-bi-FMF - what's known as a King Threesome. Being clear up front helps solve these little difficulties.