Hey CL

[goof'schik]

You can ask me anything. It's friends with benefits, I have my home he has his, I've know him going on 9 years, benefits started a litle over 2 ago. As you know he's 60, never married and no kids. Doesn't want kids or even a wife. There is what there is, the only reason I even stay the night is because I have a medical condition, he had no problem with this. I know I am the only one that stay's, it's MY side of the bed. And he has let "only you" slip a few times about me being there in the AM.
We watch alot of tv, cuddle, eat and even work outside in his yard, he loves his yard. We really don't go alot of places, maybe the cider mill in the fall. He's a total home bee. If there is anyone else it's someone from his past, an old (from 40 years ago) kinda has been mentioned. I saw letters she had written to him back then sitting on the table. He even read a few of them to me, she called him husband and her wife but she was still in high school and he was in the Air Force for Vietman and Korea. I did ask him about her once, if it was all that why aren't you two married, and he said she had been married and divorced 4 times. The letters are now gone, and I've been there on Friday and Saturday nites and she doesn't call, so ???
I want the fairy tale ending, he's a great guy, job, house, 5 vehicles, the kind of guy my daddy would approve of. Except commitment, darn it.

[constantlylearning]

Yeah, being divorced several times might scare a person off for sure.
Who knows what can change over time. I hope your medical condition
gets better soon as well. Life has a way of making the edges softer over
time and smoothing out the ride at times. If you are Happy that is truly
all that matters.

[goof'schik]

I have seizures, and the meds just kick my butt. These only started 4 years ago. When I told him I was going to have to either not come over or stay he was ok with me staying. That was about 1 year into it. He does these little things, I complained about flat pillows he went and got new pillows, he makes sure I get something to eat, and well it's always pleasure for the both of us. He is a sweet guy, and I know that I am the best woman he has ever had, but he's scared. He was raised by a single working mom with not a lot. I was raised by my mom and dad in a 4 bedroom house with a pool in the backyard. And I don't give a hoot, I don't need a diamond, put a gold band on this girl and I would be thrilled. It's the man not the ring or anything else I want. I tell him I care and he says "don't". Well tomorrow he hears "I Love You" and we will see where that gets me.
I've never been married either, because when I say til death do us part it is written in stone. I've been engaged 3 times and never said those words, but with him I have no doubt.

[constantlylearning]

Well, I really do wish you the best of luck. Maybe, you will be surprised as to the
outcome of the situation. Good Luck.

[goof'schik]

I will keep you posted, but I am prepared for the boot.

[goof'schik]

he didn't say I love you, but he didn't say I never want to see you again either. He didn't say anything, which I hope means he's home missing me.
MEN!!!!

[constantlylearning]

Yeah, those darn MEN in general. Terrible terrible.

[goof'schik]

It was suppose to say, as it now says, he DIDN'T say. I was home in my own bed by 10 and well didn't want to think about anything.
And yes MEN.....or as you guys say WOMEN...

[constantlylearning]

Not a word at all?????????? Perhaps, a groan or something of the sort???
Those darn MEN......what goes through their minds?

[goof'schik]

Nope not a one, no emails either. It's ok, I love him, and I told him for me not for him.