Help Please

[Gabby101]

My boyfriend has been pushing me to have sex exactly like we did 15 years ago. Back then he introduced me to Swingers and the like and it was not really my thing but i went along with it. We broke up and got back together 6 years ago and things were going fine until recently, just now he has decided that he doesnt like how sex is now and wants me to be like I was 15 yrs ago. I have tried to tell him that is not me now and when I bring up the fact that this is news to me how things have been are not good enough he wont listen. He also brings up things like, how other girls did things, how I have sex just to please him (I enjoy sex but cant seem to make him happy). I try to initiate sex but it is hard when he just lies there. I was wondering too, if he is constantly upset about everything in general can it also affect my sex drive?

[dancingdoc2]

> (I enjoy sex but cant seem to make him happy). I try to initiate sex but it is hard when he just lies there. I was wondering too, if he is constantly upset about everything in general can it also affect my sex drive?

It is possible although unlikely that his sex drive per se is affected. My intuition tells me that he is unhappy with the relationship and is simply choosing not to respond or engage. That said, unless or until he is willing to discuss matters with you and work on improving the relationship nothing is going to change or change for you.

My question for him is if he likes his past relationships, why isn't he working to make this one better, or, why hasn't he moved on? What is keeping him in this relationship? This is a question for you.

[lnt1103]

If he's trying to make you be someone you're not, he's not worth your time and energy. Honey, move on.

[constantlylearning]

The poster poses a very good question............and probably the OP is the only
one that can truly answer the above question. In general, isn't it difficult to make
things "like they use to be" or "like they once were?" Especially with the passage of
so much time. What once seemed so easy and effortless has become cumbersome
difficult.

[constantlylearning]

Not sure what an appropriate response to this thread would be........?

[EvilEvilKitten]

It seems to me that you think your job is pleasing him and he's such a prick that he refuses to be pleased.

You have accomodated him enough! Stop doing it. Either he steps up and likes/loves you for who you are now or he can just get the hell out.

Trust me, life is far too short to have to put up with someone who thinks he's entitled.

[Brandye]

We each have certain limits. You know what yours are. Time to find a more respectful b/f.