more kink please!

[kinkypair]

Well I'm in need of help! My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years now. We are extremely comfortable with eachother and very much so enjoy pleasing eachother. The problem is that I'm running out of ideas! He is completely up for ANYTHING as I am aswell. We have done alot of naughty things ranging from threesomes, to anal play, to more dirty things such as peeing on eachother! I need some ideas to spark this up more! Come on girls get those ideas out there for me!!! And guys... what do your girlfriends or wives do to keep you interested and hot!!!

Thanks!

[dancingdoc2]

Welcome to the SI101 Board and its Forums. I hope you enjoy participating.

People in a new or young relationship often experiment more and more often than later into the relationship. After a lot of experimentation it is not uncommon to run out of ideas and become bored. As a dance instructor, I frequently hear guys ask what they can do to spice up their dancing regardless of how many dance steps or patterns they know. My answer to to vary the order in which you do things by incorporating several of the activities you probably did singly.

Next, making love can have a couple of aspects to it; first, that being the pure lust and fun of it; second, as an affirmation of the emotional love you have for one another. Speaking about the latter, devote your physical activities to really reflect the emotions you feel.

[constantlylearning]

But Doc, doesn't that bring up the question........."what exactly is considered
kink" ????

[dancingdoc2]

I suppose, although, I was attempting to emphasize variety instead of content.

[constantlylearning]

Yes, I understood your intent. I was merely wondering in general what
constitutes "kink" to different people.

[Duanec60]

kinkypair,

I love your attitude!! Sometimes it's not what you do but when you do it. One of the hot experiences I had with my wife occured when I came home from work one afternoon. She was wearing a sexy outfit, watching a porno, and masturbating with a dildo.....and then gave me this, "what took you so long" look. I drove right in. Give him what you both want when he least expects it.

[dlb]

Hi Kinkypair!

It's great that the two of you are so exploratory, experimental, and into trying new things.
Besides groups, small or large, anal, and golden showers there is sex in the great outdoors, sex in places where you "might get caught", roleplaying games, sex with food, acrobatic sex ( yeah , swinging from a trapeze , etc. and positions that require a certain degree of fitness) the so-called "tantric" sex, sex with not-your-usual-sex toys, Bondage and Discipline and Sadism and Masochism and surely things that I cannot think of at the moment.

One think about sex: it is a sensual experience. Let me continue before you say, "well, DUH!" Listening to music, eating, looking at artwork, smelling a flower, and wearing soft smooth clothes are just a few more sensual experiences. Just as you are probably eclectic in your tastes for music, food and drink, art, scents that please you, and things you like on your skin you are and should be in your sexual activity. But, I bet you have certain pieces of music that always do it for you, foods that you will never turn down, drawings, sculptures, photos etc that you are always drawn to, flowers, perfumes or other scents that you could breathe all day and fabrics that you would wear exclusively if possible.

For your sex life choose some activities that are favorites, but don't do them all the time. Try and keep them special. Once something becomes routine it looses the kink for me.

Now since I don't know EVERYTHING about your sexlives I suggest exploring the following site in depth. There is a pretty good chance that you will find something there that you have not thought of or heard of.

http://www.sexuality.org/


Best wishes and KINK ON!

[dlb]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

Yes, I understood your intent. I was merely wondering in general what
constitutes "kink" to different people.

Actually dancingdoc2 this is for both you and constantly learning.

I think we are all in agreement that perceptions of kink and kinkiness may vary from one individual to the next.
Some people consider being open-minded about one's own sexuality and that of other people to be kinky-if you admit to liking sex you are kinky; sexy equals kinky. Other people think that kinkiness goes beyond sexuality; any excentricity is a kink. And there are still others who believe that their kink is the one true kink. There a too many of the last group in the BDSM community if you ask me!

Personally I consider a sexual kink to be any sexual activity or taste that is outside the usual. Whose usual? Why, society's usual and (this is important) my usual. Anything that most people don't do, sex while skydiving for example, could be considered kinky by society. I am reminded of an early 70's paperback novel about a New England couple that moves to San Francisco during the time period and have a series of wild sexual adventures. The wife has an affair with an 18 year old hippy boy who wants to do it in the refrigerator, upside down in the closet, etc. One day he is out of ideas, draws a blank on where to have sex and she suggests thebed. This is the kinkiest thing he has ever heard of; he [B]never[B] has sex in a bed!

So what may be mundane to one may be very kinky to someone else. Also what is romantic for some could be kinky for others. If a couple frequently plays the pickup game, pretending one seduces the other in a restaurant, bar, etc. they might consider it a romantic way of keeping their relationship fun. But, people who would never do this might consider it kinky.

How's this sound to you?

[kinkypair]

Thanks for your great ideas! He is really a great guys and very into pleasing me. Im still trying to take on more of the dom role. He really likes to be told what to do and in past relationships I have always been the sub. Im having a hard time getting used to being in control. Its funny cause I am a manager at work and am in very much control of my work place but cant master being in control of the bedroom! Has anyone else had this issue and maybe want to share some ideas to help me along!
Thanks for all your support guys!!

[laydeerae]

My boyfriend also likes me to be in control, and I am not used to it. Instead of telling him what to do I like to tie him up and blindfold him (he absolutely LOVES it) and just have my way with him. We have not gotten into the full blown bondage(yet) but we both are very interested in doing so. I like when he is blindfolded to get into the 69 position. Just try different positions you do not think he will expect, in places out of the ordinary. This site has a WONDERFUL list of sexual positions.