anal

[stefanijerkface]

me and my fiance both really wanna try it. but everytime we attempt it something happens to prevent it from lasting any longer than a few minutes. we have gotten "into" it twice without it hurting me to badly to continue. but once i start to get really into it i get random pains in my stomach or back. any tips on how to prevent this stuff??

[Mr. Saint]

There is both an article on this topic as well as a couple of threads on this site. Its all right to post a lot on this site but try searching the site a little first.

[dancingdoc2]

Please begin by reading this article:

"Playing Ball" and How To Tips for Prostate Massage
This is also an excellent tutorial for people interested in and concerned about the how-to of Anal stimulation as well as play.

Then:

* She must make a conscious effort to relax the sphincter muscles

* Use plenty of lubrication. If you believe you are using enough--use more, until you establish a baseline. Make sure the condom is well lubricated as well as the anus and sphincters (as described in the article). A so called "lubricated condom" is not sufficient. The lube must be applied to both areas, first and foremost. You can't rely upon spreading it around from insertion and stroking.

* It is important to tease the passageway in order to condition it to having an item (penis, finger, toy) go the other way than what it is designed for.

* The pain is from back pressure against the shaft of the penis and most specifically the root structure inside the abdominal cavity. My recommendation from this point is not to be so vigorous. Along with this, concentrate your movements to be shallow and not always deep. This will stimulate the glans and frenulum more and help to trigger the orgasm.

As for lasting, there is an article on how to gain mastery over this. Please read through the Index:

--BEGIN HERE--w/a Partial INDEX of Sex Info 101 Sex Ed. Topics

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stefani - yes - do it to him - after all he's the one with the P=Spot.