Watch my wife??

[clevy36]

Hello,
I hope I don;t get too much flack for this question. My wife and I have been together for 14 years and our kids are grown and it seems our sex life is being re-ignited....finally. For a long time I have been turned on by the thought of my wife being penetrated by another man. I am not sure why and maybe I am crazy but it seems like it is quite a common thought but maybe not talked about much by men.

We now fantasize during sex by talking about the idea of it. We both seem to get very hot and have very good sessions like this. It is all talk and I highly doubt it will become reality and it really doesn;t matter anyway. Whatever happens. The thought of another man cumming in my wife (notthat we would ever go bareback but talk is ok) really heats me up and her.

Has anyone here been down this road? did you try it and what were the results? We thought about going to a local swing club as we hve never been and we were almost ther ebut she said she would be jealous if a woman came on to me.....I sai dI would just say no as I am only interested in my wife anyway. But for some reason I find it incredibly erotic to maybe see another cock in her hand and watching it go inside her.....

I am not interested in the "cockold" lifestyle. My personality is not cut for it. But I think the idea of this really brings out my competitive nature and I think that;s what drives this fantasy....but I admit it really turns us on. She was shy at forst about talking about it when I did because she thought I would be upset by her thinking of another man but I am completely ok with it. I mean it is not realistic to not think about it.

Anyway, I hope I am not the only weird one here...

[CleverName]

If you think you could do this without harming your relationship with your wife, then go for it! Nothing is wierd if you are both into it. But I would make sure to set ground rules when picking another guy to do this with, and make sure you get to know the guy well, before you try anything like this with him. Make sure he is tested for STDs and is clean!

Good luck!

[sera300]

There are several older posts on the same...one was a man who found his wife where she & her first husband taped themselves during their marriage, found in "packed & old items" in the garage. He put the tape in the VCR & found himself incredibly aroused. Search the site you may find a few & show that; no, you are not "odd" or "weird".

Acting upon it; that is something you would need to communicate well and be clear about; look through the pro/cons of threesomes in the threads.

http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/marr...hree-some.html

[dancingdoc2]

Fantasies come in all forms. As long as they remain this way there is no harm.

Now, having said that, why not act out your fantasy by becoming the other man? This can be role playing at its finest and a great chance for a real turn on. Both of you should agree to act in this play, although, she should also understand that what you have planned might not happen for a day or two.

One suggestion is to place a note somewhere where she will find it signed by..... You might place it on her car windshield, her desk at work if she has one, or someplace around the house where she is bound to find it. Tell her you want to meet her at such an such a place at a specific time. Be there and dress as the other man and act like him. This meeting might be in a park, or in front of a store, etc. If the park you can consider kissing her and talking and maybe doing a bit of hanky-panky with her before inviting her to dinner; otherwise tell her you know of this great little restaurant and then escort her to it where you talk over a long leisurely dinner.

Later invite her to a h/motel or if not possible, ask her if she will go home with you. If she says "yes", then do not end up in your master bedroom. Lead her to another bedroom or make mad passionate love in the kitchen, or on top of the washing machine while on the spin cycle--anything any place that is different from what the two of you normally would do. Make lusty mad passionate love to her as this other man would. DO NOT make love like "she and her husband" would. Dare to be different. This is what you would want if it really did happen, right?

At the end of this episode, take her back down town to her car and then both of you drive home separately arriving at slightly different times and meet as if nothing has happened, carrying on life as if you knew nothing about this imaginary meeting she had. (Oh yes, and change your shirt at least before going back home. You want to arrive back home as her husband not the other man!)

[rm91304]

Hey man i think the same way with my girlfriend. we both talk about it and yes i hope it happens one day i think it will be fun for the both of us. where from e-mail me rm91304@yahoo.com

[EvilEvilKitten]

Have you ever tried it?
LOL
YEAH!

The thing is to start small. I suggest just hanging out with your local Lifestyle/Swing group and talking with them about this fantasy of yours and the ramifications thereof.

Why them? Because they know the rules of the game and have their manners down pat. They will not push or be aggressive and they will ask permission.
Please be aware that in this arena, She Rules, so you cannot push the idea either. Follow her lead.

BOTH of you have to "approve" the male involved so it is best to "hunt" together. But if you yourself, cannot walk up to a man and say "My wife would like you to have her number." with immense dignity and poise, then turning this fantasy into reality is NOT for you.

[PrairieFire]

I have one of those relationships and my wife and I have enjoyed it immensely, the sex life skyrockets! We have been together for 13 years and one positive I have found is it is a turn on to know that your partner is still sexy to others.

Going to a swing club is a great beginning most of them are really relaxed and easygoing, no one is gonna pressure you to go beyond your limits. Chances are she will be the one getting hit on at the club, not you.

BUT to make it work there are 4 things that are musts.

1. COMPLETE open and honest communication

2. jealousy will be there at some point, learn to work through it.

3. It is sex, not love. They don't have to go together, most guys already know this

4. It is not cheating if your partner knows and accepts it.

If you do it right, both of you will really enjoy it! There are forums out there that can help that have both male and female views.

[clevy36]

Thanks for all the tips. We have thought about local swing clubs but not sure on it as we do not drink.

We are both a good looking couple and while I have no doubt she would be hit on, without sounding full of myself as I am not, she is sure I would be too, maybe not as much though?. Anyway, as i said, I am not into the cuckold lifestyle, I would not want her to go on "dates" per se but a swing club may be the way to go.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Most swingers are not heavy drinkers. I drink soda myself.

[clevy36]

Originally Posted by PrairieFire

I have one of those relationships and my wife and I have enjoyed it immensely, the sex life skyrockets! We have been together for 13 years and one positive I have found is it is a turn on to know that your partner is still sexy to others.

Going to a swing club is a great beginning most of them are really relaxed and easygoing, no one is gonna pressure you to go beyond your limits. Chances are she will be the one getting hit on at the club, not you.

BUT to make it work there are 4 things that are musts.

1. COMPLETE open and honest communication

2. jealousy will be there at some point, learn to work through it.

3. It is sex, not love. They don't have to go together, most guys already know this

4. It is not cheating if your partner knows and accepts it.

If you do it right, both of you will really enjoy it! There are forums out there that can help that have both male and female views.

Why does your sex life improve? Is it that you like to see the look on her face when she is playing? I read about this quite a few years ago and at the time it was labelled "sperm competition syndrome" altough i cannot recall the exact definition. Was your wife nervous the first time? Is it easier now? Were you and how did you handle it? how did you pick a guy?

I am very visual and like to see/watch, maybe thats' part of it. I am also very competitive inother areas...most areas...lol so add it all up I guess. Anyway I have heard about this alot and I become incredibly hard when I think, or my wife talks about other cock....the rest of him really is unimportant...lol.....I feel really strange talking about this and would never speak about it to anyone I know. And if you knew me you would really wonder as I am full of testosterone and, umm, male characteristics, machismo maybe?? lol.

Thanks again for the input.