03-31-2008, 04:09 PM
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Families at war
Its a long story but i need to tell someone.......or alot of people what is going on. My parents are acting like children because my gf and I who have been dateing for 3 years just bought a car together and didnt tell my parents about it untill it was in the driveway with my name on the papers. Now my gf's dad came to see the car befor i bought it but my parents are now banning her from my home and they arnt talking to her parents because they are upset they her dad would take me to get a car and not say " dont you think you parents should be involved". Now my whole life has been wrapped around my moms fingers and now im trying to become a man and at almost 20 years old i think that i should be able to make decisions without my parents input about every detail. So the story is now that im caught between childish parents that wont let me grow up and my gf and her parents that think highly of me and treat me like an adult. So im trying to make it as easy as possible but im still under my parents roof so i cant just rebel totaly and expect to stay here very much longer. Can anyone give me advice on this?. Counceling has been an option but i want to know opinions.
thanks for listening.
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03-31-2008, 04:51 PM
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You share a car and payments? And you share insurance w/her? This makes you [and she] responsible for the others actions. Loan your car, loan your insurance. You are the titled owner? You own it since you are not married.
Their main issue is fault. Accident happens and the other party can go after your parents since you reside w/them...injured people go for deep pockets and if the insurance is not enough they go after the place it's housed. If you carry your own insurance, work, pay for it, and live on your own they are indemnified. I can understand your parents being upset with out her father discussing the legality w/them. However, you should have discussed it, bought your own, & insured your own. Perhaps it's different in Canada. FYI: You work out the car matter & let parents work out theirs.
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Last edited by sera300; 03-31-2008 at 04:55 PM..
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04-05-2008, 12:01 AM
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04-06-2008, 09:18 PM
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UA - NEVER SPEAK FOR ME.
Sexyand17 - you have only one real choice. Move out of your parent's house. Get employed. Build your life. That was obvious. Do not tell me you cannot do that. You have no choice but to do that now. TY, Oedi.
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04-07-2008, 03:15 AM
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Sera300 knows more about the laws governing car ownership in the US did you actually think about any of the points she raised before you bought the car. As a matter of fact did you actually consider asking anybodies advice before you bought your first car? I was 24 when I bought mine and I asked my parents advice not because I was some daddy's girl but because I was old enough to take advice without acting out like a teenager. Anyway I think going by the title you're being a little melodramatic. you don't need counselling!! you just need to start engaging your brain. I honestly think that this could all end up in tears for you and maybe that could be just the learning experience you need. Last edited by sarah_rsl; 04-07-2008 at 03:39 AM..
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04-07-2008, 07:00 AM
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Remember - the OTHER family went into this with him. He had guidance when getting this car.
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04-07-2008, 10:09 AM
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Still I think a lot of older people can see potential problems with the joint ownership of a car. His parents obviously being two of them. For whatever reasons his girlfriends parents went along with it but he even admits himself that they had reservations.
Anywho my main point is that I'm not buying into the notion that its his parents that are the childish ones.
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04-07-2008, 10:41 AM
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I totally agree with sarah_rsl here...
Sexyand17 - How ****ing dumb can you be? Seriously - sharing ownership of a vehicle, ESPECIALLY with a girlfriend, is as stupid as it gets. Her parents don't sound too bright either. This is exactly the kind of idiotic situation that ends up on Judge Judy. Your parents have every right to be angry with you. THEY KNOW BETTER than you and are trying to stop you from making huge mistakes like this in your life. Perhaps they'll start treating you like a responsible adult when you become one. You and you alone are the one that's being childish... You need to pay your girlfriend every cent she put into buying the car and become the sole owner (or vice versa). Unless you want to end up in court later, which is what will definitely happen... This kid NEEDS to be living with his parents for a long time to come - he doesn't have the responsibilty or decision-making ability to live on his own yet. He will get CLOBBERED in the real world...
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04-07-2008, 07:55 PM
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You will perhaps notice that I haven't said anything about his parents.
But the fact that he's making such errors almost proves the fact that they have been far too protective. Oedi - he really should get out and make those bonehead errors he needs to make.
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