anal sex advice

[jess_bg]

OK my fiance and I are trying anal for the first time...I thought we were doing everything to get ready...lots of lube...going slow...warming me up with his fingers for about a week...so then when he tried penetrating...IMMENSE pain! so ok any advice?

[sera300]

Do a search on the site...

[jess_bg]

I've done lots of searches i just also want advice from individuals as well

[sera300]

Originally Posted by jess_bg

I've done lots of searches i just also want advice from individuals as well

First relax...lube and being ready to go is a must. Then rather then bend over...lie on your stomach flat with some clitoral stimulation happening too. Lube up...insert gently...stop and hold where its uncomfortable...then gradually have him proceed...you guide him. Or try you being on top! And have him stimulate you best done when your at the brink of orgasm, then begin to slide down him slow; hit the point of pain stop, hold, and breath, and slowly slide while he does some manual stimulation of the clitoral area! Have a glass of wine prior....assuming your of age to drink! Cannot go straight for the full bang part...or you will hurt yourself. Gradual, slow insertion!

[jess_bg]

i also heard that if there's oral clitoral and vaginal stimiulation before hand anal doesnt hurt as much...is this true?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by jess_bg

i also heard that if there's oral clitoral and vaginal stimiulation before hand anal doesnt hurt as much...is this true?

It just gets you really worked up...don't go anal to vaginal though...and use caution...condoms!!! Stimulation during--of the clitoris helps alot...I do it rarely but love it when in the mood!!!!

[jess_bg]

Yeah I warned my fiance of not moving back to front...we dont use condoms for vaginal sex but we are going to for anal so that we can take it off and move to vaginal if we need to...and we aren't going to attempt oral anal so no problem there

[EvilEvilKitten]

My advice..don't do it. Since it is only the male who has a prostate gland and therefore a P-Spot, only men should "receive" anal sex. They make vibes for just such a purpose. They work very well - make his orgasm more intense.

Internal hemmoroids, diverticulisis - well, let's just say the long term effects of anal sex, even if infrequent, are not pleasant.

What is it about guys always wanting to put their penises into small dark holes not meant to receive them! Jeez!

[Thresher_V]

LOL, I've never seen a thrill out of anal. As far as I'm concerned, it's an exit only...

[Ephemera]

Listen to all the advice on this forum, it will help.

But, like losing your vaginal virginity, it'll still probably hurt a bit, no matter what precautions you take.