Married a long time

[jobobf]

I didn't think I would never be with another woman, but I know that my "wife" don't want me to be alone. I feel she is guiding me

[constantlylearning]

Jobobf that is a good way to view things. Sometimes I am sure it is easy
to feel empty and as if you have a hollow heart due to the loss you endured.
I think sometimes it is so easy to simply wish/hope that things were simply
the way they use to be. I am so happy that you are "living" and enjoying
your life. Like Sera said, things will probably be "different" but to me that is
OK. I have seen similar instances where things were so good that once gone
and time fades---it simply seems as if it never existed at all (like it was a dream).
Keep us updated and keep going strong and having fun.

[sera300]

The last thing a deceased spouse or one who you divorced and cares for you, would NEVER wish you to spend a life alone recapturing "what once was". Any person who truly loves another wishes the party left behind nothing but the best! There is love to be found--you just have to allow it in! And it is never the same nor is there a competition of who you loved most since you love each so differently!

Reminds me of the song "My Immortal"...

[constantlylearning]

I think you are right Sera......it is difficult to watch what was once so
easy become so hard for people. Effortless actions become cumbersome
and tedious.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sera is quite right, for two reasons, one of which she mentioned - those who truly love want only the beloved's happiness. Secondly - it is NOT good for people to be alone! In time, when you are ready, another love will enter your life and your heart.

[sera300]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=B-A-4NQfFRs

You never wish to remain in this state---not healthy. Life is for the living.

[constantlylearning]

I believe that our lives are made up of small comings and goings....and with
each time we take something of value with us we are bound to leave something
behind. I see your meaning.

[jobobf]

The people on this web site are amazing has help me to move! Not forgetting but adding more to my life.

[jobobf]

[quote=sera300;214331]The last thing a deceased spouse or one who you divorced and cares for you, would NEVER wish you to spend a life alone recapturing "what once was". Any person who truly loves another wishes the party left behind nothing but the best! There is love to be found--you just have to allow it in! And it is never the same nor is there a competition of who you loved most since you love each so differently!

I was with my wife when passed away, she was more worried who is going to take care of me than her problem. Her daughter, son, and both grandson was with her. I do miss her alot but her pain is over and we will meet again,she was a great woman. I guess I'm still grieving

[sera300]

[quote=jobobf;214875]

Originally Posted by sera300

The last thing a deceased spouse or one who you divorced and cares for you, would NEVER wish you to spend a life alone recapturing "what once was". Any person who truly loves another wishes the party left behind nothing but the best! There is love to be found--you just have to allow it in! And it is never the same nor is there a competition of who you loved most since you love each so differently!

I was with my wife when passed away, she was more worried who is going to take care of me than her problem. Her daughter, son, and both grandson was with her. I do miss her alot but her pain is over and we will meet again,she was a great woman. I guess I'm still grieving

You will always have part of you left behind. You lost the woman you loved who must have been a magnificent lady. You find as you go through life there is no REPLACEMENT for the love you lost, you just find a happiness, new love with a different person, which is different than any other. Search for happiness since any person who truly loves another wants them to live and love again... Some days are ten steps ahead & one step back & that one step back feels like a earth shattering experience.

Of all I know who have had their loved one or spouse die, not one ever ended grieving, they just continued to live & through living a full life found love again. But never forgot.