Can I be a She-male?

[cunfuzzled]

Hi All,

I am trying to be a good girlfriend/wife and I was looking for advice from a place like this. This is my first post.

My fiance (we are getting married in February) recently told me he has a fetish with shemale pornography. He was really open about it and answered all of the questions I had. I looked at some online, and read a lot about it (on this forum and others). It's a little strange to me, but I love him and I'm not going to judge him. He says he loves me and I turn him on so much as well. From what I have read it doesn't necessarily have to interfere with our relationship.

My question is - is there a way I can participate in this fetish? Shemales do not turn me on, but maybe I can put on a strap on and pose for him. Has anyone had experience with this? I'd like to find a way to embrace this part of him and not make him feel bad about it. Perhaps if I participate in it, I won't feel as weird about it anymore either. Right now I feel like that's a part of him I'll completely never be able to satisfy or participate in.

Thanks for any help.

[Want_to_be _better]

Be very careful. I don't think that most men interested in shemales care about the "she" parts.

[cunfuzzled]

Originally Posted by Want_to_be _better

Be very careful. I don't think that most men interested in shemales care about the "she" parts.

Oh I definitely think you're wrong there. And like anything in life, or anything in sexuality, there's a spectrum of likes and dislikes. You should read up on it. Thanks for your input, though.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Cunfuzzled - stop worrying and no, you don't HAVE to participate in this fantasy if it does not turn you on. The interesting thing about fantasies is that once you do them in real life, they cease to be fantasies and they lose all of their allure. By enacting the she-male, as you propose, you may be ruining the fantasy for him. Is that what you want to do? Also, there are those fantasies that we really WANT to STAY fantasies and have no intention, EVER, of enacting them in real life. This may be one of those for him. Your motives matter here. So think carefully.

When considering a course of action, reverse your positions and then re-consider your position. How would you feel if it were you?

[Ducy]

Cunfuzzled...that is a nice idea...I mean the whole willing to act out a fantasy even though you dont like it...

But dont...I mean one fantasy I have is having sex in the movies....sounds hot but the fact that Im 17 and she is 18...getting caught would be very very bad....can you say statutory...

[RF4569]

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[Ducy]

OK bad example....

[machine_rat]

You're just going to have to accept that this is simply a fantasy of his, something for him to be into on his own time... so long as it doesn't cut into your relationship. Perhaps it's only a phase that he's going through.

Don't change who you are by pretending to like or forcing youself to enjoy something just to conform to what he desires, you'll only resent it in the end.

[constantlylearning]

I can say for certain that I was very naive before I started reading threads
on this site.........never heard that term before.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by constantlylearning

I can say for certain that I was very naive before I started reading threads
on this site.........never heard that term before.

The things we learn! Is that why you are "Contantlylearning"?