Not exactly sure how to hint to this

[Sweetness12]

Ok, so my boyfriend and I decided to bend the rules a little bit and well, we started having sex again usually on a regular basis... just at night when no one is awake..

Well, sometimes i just want him to touch me and just a little play maybe because i don't want full intercourse all the time...

I'm not sure on how to go about hinting to him that that is what i want...
I have put his hand(s) down my pants before and he Sort of got the hint, but not the full extent that I want...

Any Advice?

[curious_woman]

Tell him you're afraid of making too much noise if he's inside of you, but you still want to please him and yourself.

[dancingdoc2]

> I'm not sure on how to go about hinting to him that that is what i want.

It is all about communication. It is all in the way you communicate. It is all about understanding that guys are typically linear thinkers yet cannot always go from A to B to C without someone else connecting the "dots".

There is a time and place for hinting. (It certainly would be nice to get xyz for Christmas... hint hint.) For something as important as a relationship, you gotta talk, and sometimes in declarative sentences. (It certainly would be nice to just fool around without going all the way tonight because....)

You have to learn to talk to each other, not only about this area of your relationship, but every other aspect from goals, budgeting, banking, to food, to wallpaper, whatever. The results of hinting frequently lead to unanticipated and erroneous conclusions. Learn to speak up for what you want. Let him know why this or that is important. Ask for his input if and when appropriate.

[EvilEvilKitten]

It is only after several years that a man truly understands your 'hints' so stop hinting and just TELL him what you want.

[coveresid]

Just like EEK said. You need to tell him what you need since us men really are horrible at mind reading a woman. I can be very satisfied knowing my wife is satisfied if all she wanted was some light fingering, cuddling, or gentle stroking. I have also found that even though this is all she wanted at first, after getting into it, she then wants more. So it can lead to more action also. But if she only wants some light action, I can accept that. But I never know unless she tells me.

[cyclefreak]

For goodness sake, just tell him. Us guys hate the guessing game that follows when women drop hints. If you have something to tell him, then tell him. It makes things so much easier.