The Program

[EvilEvilKitten]

Psycho - I have been messing around with men for 40 years now and married for 30 years to the same man. If I do not know it all, then I certainly should at least come close to it. My personality is a decided one, more forthright than most, and I tend to get impatient with the pretences people use to rationalize their irrationality.

There are people who simply can not get out of their own way when it comes right down to it. For those people, here is a checklist of things they should do and in a sequence that makes sense. Starting with what is not 'threatening' and moving gently into what might be 'threatening'.

As you believe so shall you do. I am out to change your mind about sex; what it is, what it can be - this does not permit half measures and pats on the head saying "there, there".

If she's not hurtling herself into his arms with glee, if he's not looking at her with sparkling eyes, if there's no light and laughter or exhilarating joy - then he/she may want to think about what he/she's doing and what he/she's missing..and WHY.

If sex for you is NOT a GLORIOUS REAFFIRMATION of LIFE, then you're not doing it right.

Apology accepted btw.

[EvilEvilKitten]

So, did they or didn't they??

[nuttychick]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

So, did they or didn't they??

I think they didn't............................................ ....

[EvilEvilKitten]

A free afternoon would have been the perfect time!

[PsychoSexual Madman]

'Fraid not. We barely started the outercourse when I got called by a colleague of mine to come to the hospital right away. One of the police officers who works in my department was shot during a routine traffic stop. He'll be fine, but my mood was pretty D.O.A. after that.

[EvilEvilKitten]

DRAT!

You will have to try this again. Bet you will both enjoy it immensely.

[YHeloThar]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

7. G-Spot caressing using the penis
8. posterior fornix caressing using the penis

sorry if this has already been asked, but what exactly does caressing using the penis mean? we talking some angled rubbing action that goes into hard fast thrusting or what?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - since does does hard thrusting with the penis equal caressing?

You take the head of your penis - the glans and GENTLY rub it in the particular area of focus with just enough pressure so it works for HER.

You know nothing is more boring for a woman than some guy pounding away at her for hours. This is precisely what women mean when we say 'it is what you can DO with it that matters'.

Focus upon HER and learn to 'listen' to her body's responses.

Reserve any hard thrusting for the last few minutes and only to her posterior fornix after shes' had a few orgasms beforehand.

[YHeloThar]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Okay - since does does hard thrusting with the penis equal caressing?

You take the head of your penis - the glans and GENTLY rub it in the particular area of focus with just enough pressure so it works for HER.

You know nothing is more boring for a woman than some guy pounding away at her for hours. This is precisely what women mean when we say 'it is what you can DO with it that matters'.

Focus upon HER and learn to 'listen' to her body's responses.

Reserve any hard thrusting for the last few minutes and only to her posterior fornix after shes' had a few orgasms beforehand.

are there any things in more detail about that caressing because that is absolutely alien to me. i'm 24 and i've had at least 30 partners - but all girls around my age so late teens to early 20s.

pretty much my technique has been to go over her body with lips and hands and make clear how into her i am, then work into manual stimulation until she really wants me in, then slowly work with my dick while using my thumb in and out sorta shallow but angled up towards the g-spot, and then some hard pounding to finish myself off (but i have also typically been using this to finish her off if i think its possible, otherwise i continue with my dick slowly and my thumb at the same time).

but again i have no clue how to consistently do that multiple orgasm business... is something similar to what i'm saying your caress business or am i way off the mark?

[EvilEvilKitten]

You're going to hard thrusting far too early! You're also neglecting the oral sex and then the oral with manual. Give her orgasms at each hotspot before moving on to the next. If she needs to rest a bit, you return to the body worship, which is the technical name for the hands and lips all over her body, before returning to caressing the next hotspot on the list.

BTW you should not need to use your hands when caressing her G-Spot with your penis. Be guided by her responses and then remember how far in - do not draw rings around your penis however.

You're getting there.