The Program

[EvilEvilKitten]

She does seem committed to her version of events.

[Firmus]

Crap! I had a long post but I deleted it! Oh well, here's what I had from memory.

I just wanted to thank you EEK (as well as the site maintainers, and all the other contributors) for this service. We are a typical couple with 3 little kids and jobs that have sucked all the fun out of our intimate life, and it was our fault for letting it happen in the 1st place. We started on the program last night, and I haven't been this in love with my wife in a long time.

Ok, so just to explain what we did, we had to modify for our 1st attempt. My wife isn't comfortable with oral sex like she used to be pre-kid. She has a hard time getting the image of "kissing them with come on her breath" or whatnot out of her mind, but we're working on that. So I just substituted around that step with acceptable activity.

The 1st 3 massage/necking items I'll just call "part 1". I then gave her an external manual orgasm. Back to part 1 to keep her warm through the tickle phase (she's never had more than 1 a day, let alone in a short time frame). Next I did another manual, including finger penetration and g-spot area stimulation. Back to part 1 again, and then g-spot area again with my penis. For this we'll need to practice as it never really built on it's own. I added a lot of body massage to this, as well as some clitoral stimulation closer to the end. I ended the session with another full body massage as a night cap, as it was getting late for a work night. This whole session was about 1.5 hours.

Now on to the questions I have. For a typical session as described in the original post, where we would have repeated all of this (and more) for like 3 whole loops, how long does this typically take? Is the program intended to be an all-day affair? Believe me I'm all for that, but as I said with 3 little kids it's hard to get time like that, let along multiple times a week.

Second, and related to the 1st really, are steps 4-10 intended to be a complete to orgasm step, like where you don't go on to 6 until 4 and 5 have produced one? Or are these more of a loose guideline of things to do in order, and orgasms just come randomly and are cherished bonuses? I personally like her having one at each stage, but I want to do this "right". Doing this my way would surely make this into an all day thing.

As a side on the oil subtopic, I use olive oil, as it's very tasty. Granted it's a bit heavy and we got a good laugh this morning at the ghosted image of her on the sheets.

Again, I just wanted to say thank you for all this wonderful content. I want to be the absolute best lover I can be for my wife, and having this treasure trove of information is the best first step to being a better man for her.

Thanks...

[EvilEvilKitten]

How many times a woman orgasms during this USUALLY 45 minutes session depends upon whether she's multi-orgasmic, fully aroused, completely relaxed, focused and if she's willing. All I can tell you is - it depends. I reach orgasm very easily so for me, and women like me, an orgasm at every step is very likely.

This usually takes 45 minutes. 15 for massages, 15 for outercourse and 15 for intercourse, GENERALLY SPEAKING.

You time may differ depending upon comfort levels and modifications required.
Yes, modifications are allowed.

Excellent work, guy!!!

[epicsexy]

PEEK- I apologize for reposting like a beginner I'm sure this question is on here a lot but I couldn't find what I was looking for or where to post it.. My anniversary is next month and I bought this really sexy outfit I'm excited to where and have been practicing some dancing. My problem is I don't really know how to be sexy. I know I want to do the program, but kinda lost after that. I guess what I'm trying to say is I've got the the the program and the look of being sexy but how do I get the attitude of it, how do I come out of this shyness and release the tigress

[epicsexy]

*EEK not PEEK

[Firmus]

Hi,

I'm sure EEK will answer as well, but just thought I'd give a guy perspective. This is much more fun than doing my purchase card statement at work, which is what I should be doing.

I feeling that you're looking at it "wrong" as if sexy is an act or a move, something you have to "do" to be seen as sexy. The problem with that is a person will get fixated on that act, and all the other sexy things they would do day in and day out get missed. I'd say the only physical act that accentuates sexiness is a bit slower, more determined demeanor. Walk a bit slower than normal, blink a bit slower, laugh a bit slower, etc. It all adds to the picture to not be skittish acting. It makes you seem at ease, and determined.

For me, a woman is sexy by her determination, and by her demeanor. This isn't about being selfish, rather all those alpha-male things like confidence, speaking with authority, and eye contact. Unless your husband wants some submissive mousey wife, those are the things that are sexy.

As for the shyness, all I could say is at any given point think of what you want, and then get it. Order what you want to eat, not what you "should", if you want another glass of wine have it. When you're wanting to take him back home, you put your arm around him and tell him. When you're ready to have sex you take it. Be very "this is what's gonna happen, whether you participate or not".

In my mind, the best thing for you to say after doing the program is "I want to do it again!"

[epicsexy]

Thank you for your reply Im probably way over thinking it, just want to surprise him.

[EvilEvilKitten]

You are over-thinking this and that's because it is new. You never thought of yourself as a legitimately sexual being in your own right - that you have the right to "take" as well as "give". The Tigress will come out when she's ready to do so. There's no rush.

No, you don't have to go overboard with this and start demanding, just relax and if you want to do X then do X. PLAY with this. Laugh if you fall off the bed. I mean, what else can one reasonably do? SEX = FUN.

Think of this as FUN.

Happy, happy, joy, joy and we'll frolic til dawn!

No thought necessary!

[darkvoodoo]

Great program, very helpful