Getting & keeping erection - Something Wrong With Me?

[Descartesian]

I'm in college and have been with my girlfriend for 1.5 years. Recently, I learned she was thinking of cheating on me. I confronted her with this information and we decided to take a break. She eventually asked me back, and we've been together since.

Two problems have sprung from this:

1) I am slow to rise. Why is this? Do my emotions play a part in this?

2) I finish a lot sooner than I used to , which is just bad for everyone involved. I used to be a thirty or thirty-five minute guy, but now I am done in maybe five minutes.

Help! I'm starting to think I may love her, and I certainly do not want to lose her.

[dancingdoc2]

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Originally Posted by Descartesian

I'm in college and have been with my girlfriend for 1.5 years. Recently, I learned she was thinking of cheating on me. I confronted her with this information and we decided to take a break. She eventually asked me back, and we've been together since.

How long was the break, and how long have you been back together?

Two problems have sprung from this:
1) I am slow to rise. Why is this? Do my emotions play a part in this?

It is impossible to say for sure without knowing more about your interactions. Had I to offer a guestimation, I'd say "yes". On the flip side of the coin, how much time are you devoting to making out and foreplay?

2) I finish a lot sooner than I used to , which is just bad for everyone involved. I used to be a thirty or thirty-five minute guy, but now I am done in maybe five minutes.

This is not a case of Premature Ejaculation, only an untimely event. Either way the fixes are the same.

a. Masturbate an hour or two beforehand
b. If you recognize the sensations associated with a pending climax--pause or FREEZE all movement until the sense of urgency subsides.
c. Pull out, as above and/or use the Squeeze technique.

Squeeze & Training Exercise for Controling Premature Ejaculation

Help! I'm starting to think I may love her, and I certainly do not want to lose her.

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[EvilEvilKitten]

Yes, your emotions (lack of trust) are playing tricks with you. Sex begins in the mind and apparently 5 minutes is all you're willing to spend on her.

She was just considering it and you had a tizzy??? Yegods! Perhaps you should just give up on women and get yourself a dog until you have grown up.

Why was she considering it? Did you ever ask? Did you ever consider she may have had a point? Or did you just break up because a bit of competition didn't suit you and your ideas?

Effective communication is the key to all relationships. Talk with her.