Is This Considered Cheating?

[sera300]

Originally Posted by HRTeresa

Thanks for the responses. I feel miserable over this. Like a Scanc.

I don't think I'll be breaking up with my guy. I think what happened was just a blip.

What's wierd is that the other guy doesn't even feel bad. And he has a gf. Odd?
Do you think he used me?

You both mutually used each other...come on.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OMG! Just stop it! What are you? 13? So you had sex with some random fellow who rang your bell! Great! You had fun. You enjoyed it. Great! No big deal. Of course, you used a condom and you are on birth control. So there's nothing to tell any one. You wanted sex. You had sex. Congrats. Of course 'random guy' is unshaken - it was just sex.

Neither of you are married so 'cheating' is a non-issue. It is non-applicable.

If a man breaks up with you because you gained a few pounds then he is a shallow male unworthy of your time. Consider the changes your body will go through as you age and as you have children - will he run away then too? You do NOT need that kind of a man. Frankly, I would not have let him cross my threshold again even if he came decked in flowers!

Get out there and date as many men as you find attractive/interesting and stop settling for less.

[HRTeresa]

LOL. A timely break for me. But I do feel kinda rotten about it . . . after the fact. I've never strayed. Never wanted to. And I have trouble looking him in the face. But I don't want to tell him either, because i think he would dump me for good then. And it happened in my apartment! Which makes me feel squeemish when he's here. Probably just paranoid. And, as if that's not enough, he knows the guy! Wouldn't say they're friends, but they're friendly. And I don't think he feels at all bad. I called him to tell him we were back together and he roared with laughter. Said something that made me feel cheap. Said "call me next time you have a fight. I'd love to cheer you up again." After he said that, he toned it down. Said he was just busting around and said don't worry about a thing. I won't say anything. Between you and me, that kinda stuff. Basically, said we did nothing wrong, since we had broken up. However, his initial comment made me feel cheap.

[maupassant]

Well, maybe he used you; I think you used him so that's even. You sound a great lady. Are you still of the ciggies? Hope you are!!

[machine_rat]

Originally Posted by browneyedgirl

Ever seen the show Friends? This sounds exactly like the infamous Ross-Rachel split... "We were on a break!"

... I stopped watching Friends after that, there is absolutley no way to make an issue like that funny.

The only way that your situation could be likened to cheating would be if that the reason you split was because you were trying to find a loophole in the relationship, a way to simply to sleep with another guy (i.e. "Oh honey, let's take a little time apart, but we can get back together in a week or so.")

[Brandye]

Used you? : Yes, he did as you did him.

Odd? : No way. Everyone lies about sex and more cheat than not.

Feel bad? : No one is married and none of this lashup is likely to become so with present partners.

Blip? : Maybe but not a skanky one.

[HRTeresa]

What do you think about the other guy's sarcasm? Should it annoy me? Or just let it go? Chalk it up to a guy thing. My guy was here the next day! They missed each other by about an hour! I hadn't even showered. My head was spinning. Anyway, the other guy got a charge out of that, when I told him. Fortunately, i had just straightened the place up. I did kinda get a rush out of the near-miss? Odd? Immature?

[SexyChocolate]

^^^^ Perhaps if you got a rush out if maybe you are trying to recapture that whole thrill by flirting with the idea of telling him when now its insignicant. If you wasn't with him at the time then let it go girl what are you still worrying about?
If you want him to know then you infact want to get caught and that brings me back to my point.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Stop it. The guy was being FUNNY not callous and you're still behaving like you're 13.

REMEMBER this is the guy who dropped you for gaining a few pounds- HE'S NOT WORTH ALL OF THIS! Jeez!

Forget the whole "skank", "slut" etc - all terms used by those who are not as fun-loving as they should be.