Why does he choose porn over me?

[principessa]

My boyfriend sleeps with me maybe once a fortnight if i'm lucky cums in a second and never pleases me, now i find out he watches porn all the time and pleases himself when im out. is this normal? is it me? i have given up trying to initiate sex as he turns me down so much im so insecure now, please help, i need advice!

[dancingdoc2]

i have given up trying to initiate sex as he turns me down so much im so insecure now, please help, i need advice!

NO! this is not normal behavior.
Sounds to me like it is time to move along and find a man who wants to devote his time and attention to you. This is normal.

[j56h]

Ask him if he's learned anything about pleasing a woman by watching PORN. If he says yes (because we all watch strictly for educational purposes LOL), then ask him to do his best to try to employ some of the techniques that he has learned.

You might be surprised that he has some fantasies he'd like to try in bed, but is nervous that you will think he is weird. I'm not suggesting really off-the-wall kinky stuff, but perhaps some oral techniques or sex toys. Try to experiment a little and have more fun with sex. A bit more foreplay may help him last longer and help you be pleased as well.

Good luck!

[classics1]

It creates a fantasy for him. So how about dressing up in some form of sexy costume and create your own fanstasy, that drives him crazy. Them maybe you will be his new porno.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Why do women "settle" for such selfishness! NO this is NOT normal. Kick his lazy ass out and get yourself a man and not some little idiot boy dressed up in a 'man suit'.

One more thing - IT ISN'T YOU, IT IS HIM. HE'S BROKEN and IT IS NOT YOUR JOB TO FIX HIM.

[Brandye]

Once again, the behavioural definition of an addiction, "The need for anything to the extent that it interferes with normal relationships." Dumping him makes it more likely that he will seek help - or spend the rest of his life looking at pictures rather than the real thing.

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by Brandye

Once again, the behavioural definition of an addiction, "The need for anything to the extent that it interferes with normal relationships." Dumping him makes it more likely that he will seek help - or spend the rest of his life looking at pictures rather than the real thing.

God Brandye,,,this guy....what a tosser!

[Brandye]

I dated a guy one time addicted to the markets. In the middle of real action he would have to see the up and down arrows on the screen. He got down arrows in bed.

[machine_rat]

Do you know if his porn crutch is a relatively recent thing (which can happen with the introduction of new means like high speed internet or discovering having discovered his favorite niche/fetish portrayed), or has it been going on in secret for years? Even prior to when you came into the picture?

If you want this relationship to work out you're going to have to give express your deep need to be desired, and will have to issue some sort of ultimatum. Maybe the porn doesn't hav eto go so much as that in addition to it he's going to have to show you attention as well.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Rat that counts as HER FIXING HIM and thats NOT her job, buddy!
Lasting changes ONLY happen when the person him/herself wants to change not when someone else issues ultimatums.