Older I get, the more women I'm attracted to

[j56h]

Is it a curse? As I grow older, I find myself eying more and more women and thinking "she's looking good...I'd like to be with her".

Is it normal? I figure, the natural progression is that as I grow older there are constantly more women that I find attractive, simply due to the fact that when I was young most older women seemed too old....but not anymore. Plus there are all the younger women that would have seemed attractive back when I were younger and still seem attractive.

Lately it seems like there are "hotties" everywhere. Maybe the definition of hotty changes over the years...or maybe it's just me.

[cyclefreak]

Actually, I'm noticing the same thing. I think that when you are younger, you have a very narrow view of what you consider attractive. Any woman who is too much older than yourself probably reminds you too much of your mother. (Mind you, there were one or two friends of my mother's who turned me on a bit, although I wouldn't admit it at the time.)

I think as you get older you break down some of the barriers, become more confident and lose some inhibitions. These days I find women attractive across a fairly wide age range and appearances, but most of all I find maturity appealing.

Its not a curse, its a blessing!

[sera300]

Unusual since men appear to want "eye candy" when older...20 y/o! Leaves us in our 40's out of the game for decent men our own age....

[maupassant]

Originally Posted by sera300

Unusual since men appear to want "eye candy" when older...20 y/o! Leaves us in our 40's out of the game for decent men our own age....

Well, I am knocking on a bit as we say and have a bit of an unusual situation but I have to confess the the dolly birds do NOT turn me on. We just had a couple of good drama series on the tv. One starred a young modern talented actress and she appeared nude quite a lot.The other (Fanny Hill) starred a couple of much older actresses and they really got me roused. I would not even consider a lady under 40 for sex; by then I think they have learned so many skills, lost any inhibitions, and see sex as a joint effort with the importance being on ensuring the partner comes first!
So, sleep easy Sera; I am sure you are well worthy of the many suitable admirers you undoubtedly attract.
(oh, did you get my mail??)

[sera300]

Originally Posted by maupassant

Well, I am knocking on a bit as we say and have a bit of an unusual situation but I have to confess the the dolly birds do NOT turn me on. We just had a couple of good drama series on the tv. One starred a young modern talented actress and she appeared nude quite a lot.The other (Fanny Hill) starred a couple of much older actresses and they really got me roused. I would not even consider a lady under 40 for sex; by then I think they have learned so many skills, lost any inhibitions, and see sex as a joint effort with the importance being on ensuring the partner comes first!
So, sleep easy Sera; I am sure you are well worthy of the many suitable admirers you undoubtedly attract.
(oh, did you get my mail??)

Then I guess, the gene pol in the US has become poor to select from. Or they are looking for the eye candy; what do you talk about beyond sex?
I did not get the last mail, I did reply to one...Best wishes!

[constantlylearning]

I would have to agree wholeheartedly. Ladies do become more attractive
as they "gain in years." (never say get older) Not sure exactly why but
it just seems to happen. Is it people taking better care of themselves,
better beauty techniques, etc---who knows? The fact remains there a lot
of striking 30/40/50 year old ladies these days. Bravo to them...........Age
truly is JUST Number...it can neither confide or bind you.....

[Brandye]

Well for men, the pool of attractive talent constantly increases. A good looking 18yo is goog looking to an 18 yo male or a sixty yo male. When you get to my age, we knock the socks off fifty yo but thirtyish guys see us as "Mum."

[j56h]

When I say it's a "curse"....it is because I'm married and it seems like there are more and more women that are attractive enough to cause some "temptations". LOL

[sera300]

Well said Brandye. I have found men will only date women half heir age which leaves me w/the 80 y/o's!

Men my age do not want to date seriously, they lie between their teeth stating they are looking for a LTR yet are so involved in themselves & lives there is no room for any relationship. They date the 20/30 y/o's b/c "she" will tolerate his behavior. Then there are the men who pawn themselves off as single with a wife and kids at home; I can pick that trick up in about 5 minutes.

I keep fit, stay attractive, work out, am fully independent on myself...I have not found a man who wishes to be with me for who/what I am rather then someone who needs something from me (to advance their lifestyle)...

I have found I am better off "bonding" with my pets v. wasting time with a fool in disguise. When the right person steps up; I will rethink dating. Almost made it to a wedding but in the end the difference in subtle priorities would leave one of us ultimately very unhappy. At that time we both wanted a child & marriage--due to travel for his career, I would have been a single parent. Now, no kids possible, I guess I tossed myself "under the bus"; however, I still realize I would still be alone while he traveled. Not much of a relationship seeing someone a few days a month.

The point? The dating pool is horrible at this age, regardless of how great you look and how decent you are. What is attractive? Does it matter?

[constantlylearning]

I think you have be careful when speaking/writing in general or stereotypical
terms. It is a broad stroke to say men or women of this particular age are
this way or that way. I maybe off base but I think it comes down to the
individual. Brandye is right (in my opinion) about the "talent" pool increasing
more so for men as opposed to women as time marches on. Perhaps, the
EXACT PERFECT IDEAL person is harder too find as people grow older. Does
that make sense?