Is my boyfriend bi? How do I know?

[texasyogachick]

Hi, I am new here and trying to figure something out, I hope it's not a stupid question. I've been with my boyfriend a little over a year, and while I'm adventurous and certainly no prude, some things have me questioning him. He has always talked about various experiences he's had - not gay sex experiences but he has a lot of gay friends and told me once about using a penis pump on himself in a car with a bunch of gay men.

This never made me think anything weird until recently I know he has been communicating with people online, and posted on his myspace page that he's single and looking for "dating and relationships." Don't worry I do not plan to stay with him. But this has worried me, because about the same time I dropped something off at his house when he was not there (he asked me to) and next to his bed were a pair of handcuffs (which we have NEVER used!) and some weird thing that I don't know what it was. Maybe it wasn't a sex toy, it was hard plastic and completely cylinder, not soft or curved or shaped or anything. Just a long, beige plastic cylinder that plugged in. I've never seen a sex toy either that plugged in, but just wondering.

Does anyone think he might be bisexual? Obviously I think he's messing around with someone to some extent and I have no plans of staying with him. As far as I'm concerned we're over. But I am concerned about myself now that I've found these things.

Any input or advice? I really don't want to confront him or honestly, even talk to him.

[Ducy]

What does it matter? Not to be rude, but you said its over, so why bother trying to figure out. The plug in cylinder...perhaps an electric pump...Dont even worry about it. Yea sounds to me like he may be messing around, but what if the cuffs were meant for you...If he was smart at all he wouldnt leave the cuffs and pump by his bed if you were dropping something off.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Excuse me? If you were just dropping something off - why were you snopoing around in his bedroom? If it is "over", why were you snooping around in his bedroom? If it is over, why are you even here asking us about his habits and his sundries?? A pump and a set of handcuffs! BFD.The only reason you would be concerned for yourself is if you were having unprotected sex - which was stupid.

Sounds to me like he's had a very lucky escape!!!