Three-some

[PirateWench412]

ok-im new to this board, but i need some help! I am a married gal-and have been for over 11 years. My DH and I have an amazing, strong relationship and have been talking about a threesome for about 2 years...I have a friend-she and I have messed around on several occasions, then the other night she came over late..alone. Everything got really hot in a hurry-and it was amazing. It was the first time I had been with a woman, and the fact that my man was too blew both of our minds! It was so hot-I loved every minute of it...but my friend has freaked out now. She is feeling super guilty and stressed that she had sex with a married woman and worried that the rest of our tight little group of friends will find out. Help! Isn't it usually the commited one who has issues? I loved it and cannot wait to do it again! She wont even talk to me now!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Fear makes people do strange things like dump their friends instead of discussing things like mature adults.

Ignore her fears. If you see her when out and about be friendly but she's now an acquaintance. Perhaps in time she will calm down and then you two can talk about what happened.

There's no law that says it is the committed one who must feel guilty.

It is best to confine your hunting for three-some partners to members of the Lifestyle and NOT to look amidst your vanilla friends.

[PirateWench412]

Originally Posted by EvilEvilKitten

Fear makes people do strange things like dump their friends instead of discussing things like mature adults.

Ignore her fears. If you see her when out and about be friendly but she's now an acquaintance. Perhaps in time she will calm down and then you two can talk about what happened.

There's no law that says it is the committed one who must feel guilty.

It is best to confine your hunting for three-some partners to members of the Lifestyle and NOT to look amidst your vanilla friends.

Thanks do much for your help...ive feel like her insecurities have tainted what was an amazing experience.

Needless to say, my next experience (and I know there will be one..) will not be with her! My man & I both loved every minute of it...its too bad she can't admit she had a good time. Better luck next time, right? I guess it was good practice...

[PirateWench412]

Originally Posted by markmywords

Just to give you an update...Still in the fantasy stage but has now moved on to discussing it happenning for real. Only in bedroom at the moment. Want to discuss out of bedroom when the heat is not on and see if we can sort something...

...still keeping them fingers crossed!

Got some ideas about finding another guy...Anyone done this before and have ideas of their own - wanna keep it as far from our doorstep as possible, in fact we're contemplatng doing it 100 miles away in london where we'll know nobody! Clubs, sex sites, random pubs, male escorts, what's the best place?

Ive read your posts-and well done you! Hope it moves from fantasy to reality!
Im new to all this, but after being married for 11 years my first threesome was out of this world...now that being said i made the mistake of being with a friend. (granted we had seriously messed around before but nothing like this!) Good idea to consider a stranger in the mix!

My husband and I loved every minute of it though, and it has fueled many nights of HOT sex since then...hope it works for you!

[constantlylearning]

Pirate how did all of that come about? What prompted the situation or conversation to arise in the first place?