Three-some

[oedipussy]

So basically the rule is "no fun for you", huh curious?

This is why having a threesome while in a committed relationship doesn't work. All these ridiculous rules and guidelines, which are ALWAYS on the female's terms. And then there's the insecurity and jealousy which is the reason for the rules in the first place.

I think I'd rather just take a nap...

[curious_woman]

Originally Posted by oedipussy

So basically the rule is "no fun for you", huh curious?

This is why having a threesome while in a committed relationship doesn't work. All these ridiculous rules and guidelines, which are ALWAYS on the female's terms. And then there's the insecurity and jealousy which is the reason for the rules in the first place.

I think I'd rather just take a nap...

I don't see how its no fun for him, he can do anything he wishes except cumming in her and as EEK said it really is a non-issue, its too risky for him to cum in her. And yeah, it should be on the female's terms because what man is going to be jealous of having two girls in his bed? I'm not insecure about it, I know he loves me and if she gives better head than I do, big whop I can just get better, or pleasure him in other ways. What do you suggest then oedi, I just sit back and watch them? Then its no fun for me.

[oedipussy]

No, I didn't say you should just sit back and watch them. But two of your rules imply that you really aren't OK with him being with someone other than you. Let's be totally honest here - you're not so much interested in a threesome as you are fooling around with a girl... His presence sounds more like an afterthought. Why invite him at all?

Maybe your post made you sound more controlling and selfish than you actually are. But if a girl I was with asked me to participate in a threesome and then tried to tell me what I can and cannot do, I'd tell her to take a hike. I'll do whatever I damn well please - no one owns me. Not all of us guys are totally whipped. If we don't like what you're selling, we can go get it from someone else...

[curious_woman]

Originally Posted by oedipussy

No, I didn't say you should just sit back and watch them. But two of your rules imply that you really aren't OK with him being with someone other than you. Let's be totally honest here - you're not so much interested in a threesome as you are fooling around with a girl... His presence sounds more like an afterthought. Why invite him at all?

Maybe your post made you sound more controlling and selfish than you actually are. But if a girl I was with asked me to participate in a threesome and then tried to tell me what I can and cannot do, I'd tell her to take a hike. I'll do whatever I damn well please - no one owns me. Not all of us guys are totally whipped. If we don't like what you're selling, we can go get it from someone else...

I suppose it did sound a bit controlling, I'm under lots of stress right now . He has also told me what I can and cannot do, and vise versa because it is our rules we made so it goes well and none of us are left with a bitter taste. Anyways, my reason for having a three some is because I want to fulfill my fantasy with a woman, and because I want to see how he reacts watching me pleasure another girl. I also want to experience being pleasured by two people at once (yeah I know its selfish ) and then pleasure him, with the help of the other woman. I wouldn't say he's whipped but I can have him eating out of my hand IF I choose. And vise versa...we have problems saying no to each other when it comes to sex.

[browneyedgirl]

Oedipussy - you aren't in curious's relationship, so why are you telling her and her boyfriend how they can and cannot proceed in a threesome? Most people have rules and guidelines in a threesome - because their relationships are important to them, and they don't want to screw them up. And many men would love to watch their girlfriend with another woman even if they weren't allowed to touch the other playmate.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oedi - didn't you hear that although she'd love having an MFM - she's not going to pressure him? He feels "uncomfy" anout sharing her. He's being included now for his pleasure and education.

Of course they're going to have groundrules! Jeez! Even playing Monopoly has ground rules! Else you all just sit around too damn shy or you end up with a huge fight and the spiraling downward described by the first respondants.

Trust me,Oedi, I do know whereof I speak esp when it comes to threesomes!
It is one of my "things" you know.

[oedipussy]

Hey now, hold the phone, people - I didn't tell anyone what they should or shouldn't do in a threesome. It's none of my business. I just thought the rules laid out sounded unfair. I'm a strong believer in people being free to do as they choose. Sorry, it's a pet peeve of mine...

Anyway, thanks for the clarification, curious. From your first post it sounded as if the whole thing was one-sided. I'll stop giving my perspective now...

[curious_woman]

Thanks EEK and BEG, I think oedi was just stating his opinion and take on things, which I'm cool with I respect others opinions as long as they don't force them on me. Your opinion is welcomed oedi , as long as you respect my opinions and don't expect me to change my mind just because you have a different outlook.

And yeah, some of the rules apply because of how our relationship is, I am naturally possessive which is not really an attractive trait but I guess I'm one of those women who can get any man she wants with the proper charm, and doesn't let anyone touch the one she has. I'm not saying I WON'T share, but I would have to trust her. I would have no problem sharing with a male though, I trust men easier (don't ask why ) and they separate sex from love easier than most women in MY experience. *Tries not to step on any toes*

Hey EEK, any ideas how to convince a hot blooded Latin guy to grow out of his genes/culture and accept that a MMF three some wouldn't make him gay or less of a man in my eyes? Hehe

[EvilEvilKitten]

Curious - the vast majority of MFMs are NOT bisexual. The men stay on their own side of the woman and FOCUS upon the mission - which is pleasing her. Since there's not a lot fo room, incidental touching between males can be expected - just say "excuse me" and carry-on getting the mission accomplished. I'd say some CAREFULLY selected MFM pornography, if he's not against it, would be enlightening. You may also want to consult your local swing group.

[oedipussy]

I don't expect to change anyone's mind - just stating my opinions. Personally I think having a threesome while in a relationship would just be a lot more trouble than it's worth...

What exactly is the difference between an MMF and an MFM? They're the same letters - I'm guessing the first involves gay activity and the second doesn't?

As a guy, I've never actually seen the appeal in being with two girls at the same time - I only have one penis. I'd rather just concentrate my efforts on one person at a time, honestly. Two guys on one girl makes a lot more sense, but I have about as much interest in doing that as I do in having sex in front of an audience of farm animals. There's no benefit to me at all...