How to deal with stress

[tomcat]

Hubby is under new and more stress at work, he has blood pressure problems already. Question is when it comes to bed time or even snuggleing together, he always says he's tired, and doesn't seem interested or even falls asleep. I feel like I am loosing him. Any and all advice would help. thanks, tomcat

[sera300]

Talk to him, stop obsessing about it, and get a hobby such as hitting the gym to take out your frustrations.

[up4anything]

My husband is in Medical School, so under tons of stress, and has been acting the same way. I know how you feel, for awhile I would be laying next to him in bed but feel completely alone...it was a horrible feeling. Luckily, we did have it out and things have been a little better but I have had to come to terms with the fact that right now I just can't lean on him for all my emotional support. He has so much on his plate right now with school and our kids, that I have realized for right now I have to back off, I have turned to my friends to help me through. I tell them about my frustrations so I don't further push him away with things he feels like he can't handle on top of everything else right now. Once they get to a better place with less stress I have faith that everything will be better, and one day the roles will reverse and it will be his turn to be patient with me. Its my turn to step up and help him as best I can even though I may not get it all back right now...eventually I'll get it back!

[sera300]

Many married couples deal with Grad & post grad education and households to boot...creating balance in life & finding an activity of your own is key...maintain your own personal identity and give him space.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Heavy physical work or strong workouts will help but also find some "space" for you to just relax, clear your mind, and visualize yourself floating on a raft, it is hot out, on the water - no worries.

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