Falling for another girl and it's killing me

[Ragnarok]

My girlfriend and I have been dating for over a year and I'm very in love with her.

I live about 100kms away from her, we go to 2 different universities and I see her every 2 weeks or so during our school year.

I met this girl last year in university and she is one of my best friend that goes to that university, we are close and we hang out quite frequently.

I find myself falling for her more and more and it's killing me. I find myself always thinking about her and I don't want to.

When I go home to see my girlfriend I feel really depressed because I feel like I've betrayed her. I love her and I know she loves me but these thoughts of another girl is really killing me.

Any suggestions?

[sera300]

Time to depart ways and date others while you are both in college. May not want to hear this but you both need to free yourselves to check all life has to offer. Stay in touch w/her since you never know where you will wind up in the future...

[Brandye]

Few young love affairs survive the move of one member to University. Do each of you a favor and tell the back home girl it is over.

[tommy_tucker]

your 100 km away? your at uni so your still rather young so do what im doing now, go out and date, hit on this new girl. its all good. but if you are going to drop your gf first, there is nothing worse than knowing you have been cheated on.

[Ragnarok]

Well I do see her quite often still...I wouldn't quite call it a long distance relationship.

I'm quite attached to my girlfriend and I wouldn't say anything is really wrong with our relationship. I'm not trying to say I want to pursue my friend, its just that I can't stop thinking about her, and I guess it doesn't help I hang out with her almost everyday.

It's not as easy as just break it off and go for new girl and all is well. I really DO love my girlfriend

[-wittyphrasehere-]

Don't be unopen to hooking up with the new girl. Yeah, there is the history with your girlfriend, but people tend to grow apart in uni and seeing your gf once every two weeks or so won't help much.
To take a page from EEK; go out there and explore! Have many partners and don't just save yourself for one person at this age.

No one said it would be all ****s and giggles when you break it off, but would you rather go through months of self denial and heartache with trying to make the unworkable work, or just get it over with and start healing?

I'll share with you a hard-learned lesson; divide your head and your heart. With all that inexperience and hormones flying around, listen to the one with brains.

[EvilEvilKitten]

TALK!

Remember that you're not married to either of them!

Date them both! Whatever. You should be talking to them both about this. Be a man and be honest.

Next time do NOT be "exclusive" until you get engaged to marry. PERIOD.

[katiebug]

Long distance relationships take a lot of very hard work to keep up. There are always temptations, everywhere, all the time. Even when you are married your wife is right there next to you every minute of every day, there are going to be temptations. The deal is that when you make a commitment, you are agreeing to forsake all others. Do you want to make that decision now, while your still in college?

You should talk to your girlfriend about this. See if you can continue to date each other but take it down a notch and not be so serious, be allowed to see other people too. Maybe your feelings are there for a reason, because you need to see how you feel about other people. It's hard when you are both away at seperate colleges doing seperate things. Maybe she would appreciate a little more freedom too.

[machine_rat]

And what makes you think that there aren't guys around her that make her crazy as well?

[browneyedgirl]

I think you either need to break up with your girlfriend or discontinue your relationship with your friend. If you have such a great relationship with your girlfriend and you don't want to think about your friend, then stop seeing your friend so frequently. Yet if you have feelings for someone else, my guess is that your relationship with your girlfriend isn't as strong as it could be. There may be nothing "wrong" with your relationship, but what is right about it? You say you love your girlfriend, and I believe you, but love isn't always enough to make a relationship last. Do you see yourself ending up with your girlfriend in the long term? If not, I'd say you should move on and give things with the new girl a shot.