10-19-2007, 06:18 PM
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Need more Sex ... but not important to him
I have been with my boyfriend for 3 years, we now dont have sex very often. I have a high sex drive and if I could have it like 3-4 times a day. We normally have sex every few weeks. I have brought it up before and he just says its not that important.
Is there anything I can do to help get him into the mood or should I just leave it? I'm starting to feel like its me that hes not attracted to but he keeps saying he is.  
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10-19-2007, 06:30 PM
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Need to talk to each other more and be certain you are sexually compatible. He may have a lower libido then you do.
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10-19-2007, 08:55 PM
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You say that you now have sex only every few weeks... has it always been that way or was there a change?
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10-19-2007, 11:55 PM
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> Is there anything I can do to help get him into the mood or should I just leave it? I'm starting to feel like its me that hes not attracted to but he keeps saying he is.
He might have a low libido and if so, there will be a history that he can confirm. If his libido seems normal yet he is not willing to engage in the sexual aspect of your romance then my guess is that while he is attracted to you as he states, he is just not that into you as the saying goes. What I mean is that he likes you more as a friend. He may love you yet is not in love with you. There is no chemistry. That said, and if true, he has settled in and will continue to be quite content with his life with you. He may be great in every other way, being attentive, caring, playful, helpful around the house, etc., and is finding that you provide for his needs as far as living life is concerned. He probably won't make a move so if you are unhappy, then it will no doubt be you who will break up with him if counseling and a heart to heart chat do not work.
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10-20-2007, 05:22 AM
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Low Libido
My husband and I are struggling with the same issue. He says I am sexually aggressive because I need/want sex so much. Walk on if you're not married. You will not remain satisfied.
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10-20-2007, 05:35 AM
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10-20-2007, 05:51 AM
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we just to have sex all the time, but now we dont. We have talked about it alot and talked about what we both want and everything like that. He has said he rather a blow job then sex. He has said that he will try because he knows that I have a higher libido then him. I guess that is a good start
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10-20-2007, 08:51 PM
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One More Time
Curious girl,
One more time, there is so much more to sex than a perfunctory act. At best, you and a lover can be engaged in lovemaking over five hours or so, who the hell knows, maybe more. Skillful, artful, growing, learning, awesome stuff.....there are men out there who will rock your world! It's a start just doesn't even begin to cut it!!! If you love sex, you need someone to grow with sexually, not take it backwards. Look at this site - this is really out there. Haaaa, like sex is all there is to life. Ok, so it happens to be my favorite part! 
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10-20-2007, 09:40 PM
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One More Thing
Ok, I couldn't shut up.
Remember the movie with Cher? You will be content if you marry a man who does not rock your world, and your life will be much more colorful and painful with one who does. Worth every tear drop, darlin'!
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10-21-2007, 09:05 AM
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My husband and I have the same problem. I want sex at least once a day and he's good with once a week or even every other week. A lot of it is b/c he's very stressed in Medical School, but he has always had a slower sex drive than mine....and while this is frustrating at times, sex is NOT what its all about and the other wonderful things I get from the relationship are worth not having sex every day. So if he's worth it in other areas maybe you can talk and find a compromise b/t 3 times a day and 2 X a week. But I think in general his sex drive is not going to change....my husbands hasn't in 10 years and either has mine.
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