10-13-2007, 12:19 PM
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My fiance has a low sex drive??what should i do??
My fiance has a low sex drive??
We met about 3 years ago. We started dating and soon we had a relationship. SEx was never that great, he was 24, and i was 20, which i thought it was odd, since he was in a relationship with a 27 year old when he was only 19, i thought he had experience but i soon founded out he didnt. To make the story short, we started having sex like 2 a week, and honestly for me that was very little, im a very senxual person so i understood that he was not like me. Umm 2 years after we got engage and we currently are, during those 2 years i noticed that sex was not important to him, we would do the same things, so i suggested we should do different things. That worked out for a while, then from 2 a week went to 1 a week, and now is like 1 every 14 days. I mean we are getting marrie in a few months and i think this is really breaking up things, i have talked to him and he says is not me, is him that he is happy with the things we have now, i dont wanna think is me, i mean im 5'5, 125lbs, dirty blond long hair, cuban, i have a cute body, and not to brag but a get a lot of compliments and looks from guys, im smart, i have a great personality. I hate to think is me but sometimes i feel is me, he says no that is not me, that he loves me, and he likes me a lot but is just how he is, he doesnt think sex is that important. what should i do?? i dont wanna merrie some one that im going to divorce or cheat on a few months later. what should i do??  
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10-13-2007, 12:54 PM
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What to do? For now postpone the wedding. Sexual compatability is essential to marriages. Until you can find a resolution a postponed wedding is better then a divorce.
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10-13-2007, 12:56 PM
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Either get serious counselling or back out. He is not likely to change and your libido still has a few years of getting stronger. Sera is spot on.
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10-13-2007, 11:11 PM
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Unless he is cool with an open marraige...
Yes a foolish suggestion but it is always an option....you guys can sleep with other people just no like relationship with the other people...... Ive heard of people doing it but I know its not for everyone.
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10-14-2007, 12:00 AM
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There are four traps that a woman can fall into:
T#1: "but I love him" T#2: "but I thought he would change" T#3: "but I thought I could change him once we were married" T#4: letting your heart rule your head I agree with the information in the replies, above. Please do not let the idea of being in love drive you to do something with the pieces that you are unhappy with now.
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Life without dancing? I don't think so...... The feet may learn the steps; yet only the spirit can dance! Dancing is the fastest way to get a girl alone and into your arms in public. The Tango smolders and burns. It ignites the heart, the soul, and yes, the libido. Life is not about waiting for the storm to pass, it's about learning how to Dance in the Rain! Dance as if nobody is watching.
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10-15-2007, 09:36 PM
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Do NOT marry this man.
Even if sex is not that important to him, it is important to you. Your sex drive will only increase from this point onwards. Women do not really hit their sexual stride until they are 40 so you can sit down and THINK about spending the next 20, 30, 40 years with a man who does not desire sex like you do. Marriage is tough enough without starting off with such a serious handicap. Do NOT marry this man.
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10-16-2007, 08:57 AM
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Well i talked to him, and he agreed with me that he needed to improve, and we are going to go see a doctor, it might be low testoeterone, also Sunday we had sex, and i could seethe improvements and it was pretty good, so i think we are going to work trought this together,and im really happy that he is trying. Thank you all for your help.
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10-16-2007, 06:18 PM
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...and the trap snaps SHUT!
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