hate having sex w/wife.

[sheismyoasis]

I hate having sex with my wife. I've been married 5yrs and it has never improved. We waited til our first night of our honeymoon so I never tried it before we got married. To be honest, it was a good move because my wife has other great qualities that I saw in her before we became intimate. These qualities are what is keeping me in this marriage. But man...I am struggling with not being sexually satisfied. I don't feel loved. I have talked to her about it, and really nothing changed.
Last night we had sex and it was the worst. I felt force doing it. I often force myself to cum quickly to finish fast. She could care less. I finally started getting it to it and she starts laughing. She laughs in the middle of sex, she saids she can't help it because she is having fun. she is not into anything...no oral, no petting/fingering, bodyworship. She doesn't even move around or moan while having sex. Even after sex or before no cuddling too. Our sex life is her being still while i am on top or bottom. Seriously, i have given up. Are they any committed married people out there that can offer me some words of insight or encouragement. I am 29, she is 27. No kids, Both work full time.

[sera300]

I replied to your other post...spent many years married & it does not work, both have to want a change. You laugh in bed when you are so tired at night that you realize you have been married 12 years and sex is a bit boring...then you make it change--both.