Wanting sex with other women - Don't Judge Me, Just Give Me Some Advice.

[LooseCannon]

I'll make this as short and sweet as possible. I'm in a very good relationship, about 10 months into it. We love each other and the sex is good but I always want to be w/ other women sexually, nothing more.

Without sounding like a dog or ******* to other women, how can I convey that I'm interested in hooking up but nothing more. I know this sounds selfish and at this point i havent cheated on her. Thoughts and comments plz.

[sera300]

Do a search on threesomes & swinging...

[tommy_tucker]

talk to her. she might be in to group sex. but if she isnt then stay faithful to her or you will have to leave her because its not fair on her if you are sleeping around. but talk to her first, ive found communication is what relationships are all about

[sunprincess831]

I agree talk to her, discuss threesomes or maybe having an open relationship. But if she is against both, don't cheat! It's one of the worst feelings to a woman to know shes been cheated on!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Only 10 months, huh? I wonder if she feels like "hooking up" with other men? How does that thought grab you? How would you like to have her discuss that with you? But talking or leaving are your only two options here.

Sounds to me like you went "exclusive" waay too early, buddy!

[dancingdoc2]

This is just one more example of why dating lots of people without "commitment" is worthwhile. What is the point of wanting a relationship and then stepping outside of it? Better to simply date and have casual relationships instead of a single committed one. Isn't this the purpose of dating, to enjoy the company of many while learning about each one; and, to learn from each what we really want in a partner when the time comes to finding just that one special person?

[EvilEvilKitten]

Dancin' Doc - that is precisely why one does not go exclusive but dates many people!

[casualty]

You do sound like a loose cannon. If you love her and want to be with her and oh I almost forgot, the sex is great. But you want other women. Just as evilevilkitten said, do you want another man in the girl you love. If you answer no, I think you should drop it and let her down easy or get over the idea.

[machine_rat]

Can SHE seperate sexual pleasure from emotional attatchment?

[SweetJamieLee]

Loose Cannon, I don't know if any of us could deny sexual attraction outside of our relationships. I think it is unusual at ten months (?) , but maybe you are just a person with varied sexual tastes that will benefit from a more open lifestyle than the one you are considering. Only you know you. Being honest with yourself and moving forward to people who are like will will solve your dilemma, as long as you have the courage to go there.