30 years & a weird bombshell ... wife wants me to do oral on a man!

[Hemi]

My wife & I have been married now 30 years. We have always has a very good relationship that we have worked at very hard. Raised 2 beautiful daughters. Our sex life has always been very active & great. (she will say the same thing) Recently we were talking about fantacies and she out of the clear blue asked me if I would be willing to perform oral sex on another man while she watched. In all these years there has never been talk like this. At first I had no idea how to respond and later asked if she was just teasing or if she really meant it. She told me that she has thought about it for a long time and finally decided to ask. She actually thought that I would be upset but I was just more shocked than anything else. I responded with a we'll see. While I really want to please her and always tried. I know of no one (nor does she) that would be willing. And having never done this type of thing before I am lets say, a tad nervous. I know that she would do anything for me if I asked but I have never "crossed that street" Is she wrong for asking? Am I wrong to be willing? She said that she does not want to be part of the act other than watching it. We have never cheated on one another and plan being together the rest of our lives. I would love to make her fantasy come true but would like some input from others

[sera300]

Read through some threads here on threesomes and swinging. Much similar input which you seek is addressed. If both agree, how is it cheating?

[Hemi]

Originally Posted by sera300

Read through some threads here on threesomes and swinging. Much similar input which you seek is addressed. If both agree, how is it cheating?

Thank you for your reply and I did look on other threads. However I was looking for direct responses to my situation. Your input is valued. You are right that this is not cheating if we both agree but it sort of feels that way since there never has been anyone else since our marriage

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Hemi

Thank you for your reply and I did look on other threads. However I was looking for direct responses to my situation. Your input is valued. You are right that this is not cheating if we both agree but it sort of feels that way since there never has been anyone else since our marriage

A direct response will elicit the same response from others. In all honesty I can not tell you how often this question appears. Know the upside & downside....a strong marriage is required. Then do it if all are agreeable. How to pick the other? Evil is the dom here & states the lady has choice. You all meet for coffee beforehand...and you "approve/disapprove" her selection...you have to be in control here since this is your wife & MUST feel comfortable. Cheating? NO WAY! Adding a new partner is always sticky. Think of it as dating, you were uncomfortable when you ended a relationship and moved on to a new lady....Right? But with time you did become okay with it! Fear of the unknown is all it is!

Also, if you have specific question send her a PM or go to YIM--her info is public knowledge!!!! It's under Evilevilkitten

[Hemi]

Thank you again for your response. It has been helpful. Finding the right person may be a challange as I am not aware of anyone willing. Coming out & asking someone diectly or indirect will also be a challange also as I have never done or thought of doing this before. Any ideas how to go about finding a willing person that will go along with this knowing that there are no strings attached. Where should we start? This entire idea is very strange to me but again would very much love to fulfill my wifes fantasy

[sera300]

Originally Posted by Hemi

Thank you again for your response. It has been helpful. Finding the right person may be a challange as I am not aware of anyone willing. Coming out & asking someone diectly or indirect will also be a challange also as I have never done or thought of doing this before. Any ideas how to go about finding a willing person that will go along with this knowing that there are no strings attached. Where should we start? This entire idea is very strange to me but again would very much love to fulfill my wifes fantasy

You don't do it you allow her to pick. Then you meet him and see if all is okay with you. Ladies choice.

[Hemi]

Originally Posted by sera300

You don't do it you allow her to pick. Then you meet him and see if all is okay with you. Ladies choice.

Thank you & I will follow your advice. You have made this much easier with your replies

[curious_woman]

Originally Posted by sera300

Read through some threads here on threesomes and swinging. Much similar input which you seek is addressed. If both agree, how is it cheating?

I'm highly jealous and usually believe threesomes are destructive for monogamous relationships

BUT

I could handle my man sucking on an other mans cock or vise versa, that would be hot.
sorry just felt like saying that

[sera300]

Originally Posted by curious_woman

I'm highly jealous and usually believe threesomes are destructive for monogamous relationships

BUT

I could handle my man sucking on an other mans cock or vise versa, that would be hot.
sorry just felt like saying that

WOW!!!! You are becoming a new woman!!!! LOL! JK...

[Hemi]

Originally Posted by curious_woman

I'm highly jealous and usually believe threesomes are destructive for monogamous relationships

BUT

I could handle my man sucking on an other mans cock or vise versa, that would be hot.
sorry just felt like saying that

I am glad that my wife and I have never been jealous of one another in any way. Our relationship has always been one of utmost trust. I guess we are just lucky in that respect. I am also glad that she was able to share with me what she would like as I'm sure it was very hard to bring up. It's not like it's everyday conversation. If this happens I think that this will just make a very strong relationship stronger. Thanks for your input!