That not so fresh feeling?

[Travnuts]

I am having sexual relationship problems with my lover. Matter of fact this happened not even ten minutes before I wrote this. First of, she does like me touching her breast or even her genitalia during intercourse...makes it hard to stay motivated when I can't be touchy feely. My girlfriend claims to LOVE having sex with me, yet during intercourse she makes these grunts and moans...not from pleasure but from frustration. Every time we switch posistions, take too long, or if she has to be on top she gets frustrated and sometimes angry. I am getting to the point where everytime this happens, I just go flaccid instantly and end the sex right then(which makes her feel bad of course). It makes me miss being single and having random sexual encounters with adventurous and sexually provacotive girls. New sex is has always been great sex because it is sooo sooo fresh and new...you know? I love my woman with all of my heart and want to be with her for the rest of my life...but the sex SUCKS! What can I do to change this behavior? Is it my fault?

[sera300]

You do not spend your life with someone who makes you go limp & sex is a chore for...get with it. Sounds like love & marriage made in heaven?

[Brandye]

Either the two of you see a sex therapist (her gyn can refer) or prepare to move on. This will not cure itself.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Sorry but I concur with the ladies. Get help or get lost!!

[Travnuts]

Maybe I should throw this in. She has endemetrosis(scar tissue in the uterus and cerevix) which sometimes, not all the time, makes sex painful for her! Forgot to mention that before...by the way, I'm not just gonna leave her because of bad sex. She is my better half. All bad sex aside she is the best thing that has ever happened to me and she shows me so much love I can't describe it. We were made for each other in ever aspect of our lives except the bedroom. My ex-girlfriend was the exact opposite. Awesome eyes rolling in the back of your head sex and nothing but fighting, arguing and the infamous blame game! I would take bad sex and strong love over dynamite sex and a web of lies any day.

[sera300]

The medical part has not significance on daily sex. Endometriosis is common in many women. Rather it's an excuse. You need to balance between the girlfriend types. See in 10 years how important sex is to you...

[curious_woman]

I think love is the most important thing, but I just couldn't be happy if my partner didn't fulfill me sexually, emotionally, psychologically, spiritually.

I used to think sex was no big deal, but its not just about physical gratification, it is about your bodies communicating and coming together. I love my fiancée very much, and I feel connected to him all the time...but there is no greater feeling of closeness then just after we finish making love, and we're lying quiet and comfortable together, relaxed and happy.

If she does not fulfill all your needs, there is obviously something missing in your relationship. You would not have asked for help here if you didn't feel you needed help/you're missing something. Talk to the woman, or see a sex therapist as stated above. Tell her you're not just trying to get your rocks off, but that you care about her and want your relationship to last.




By the way, I have endometriosis and a tipped uterus. Sex doesn't hurt me one bit, and I actually PREFER the deep positions that are supposed to hurt. Smells like BS to me.