How much does the avg. guy look at porn?

[zoe k]

My boyfriend (that I live with), works different shifts than I. This is hard (no pun intended) enough. I am the hornier one in the relationship yet I find that he looks at internet porn 5 of 7 days a week. IS THIS NORMAL? I will look at it too sometime. Sometimes I get home and he is too tired for sex (I"m the chick right, that's my line?). Anyway, after I check the history I see that he already "spent" himself online. This is confusing...I'm in good shape, I'll put on something sexy, I make a great living and still cook/clean when I get home. I have tons of energy to 'work it' later. Is it me or him or normal for a guy? I'm thinking that he might get bored at home alone (i sometimes dust) or is it something else?


HELP!!

ZOE

[sera300]

Porn is no big deal unless it interferes with real life and with relationships...only you can decide. Talk to him, perhaps you need an earlier time to spend together...

[zoe k]

I am sort of undecided with porn. I tend to be the closet jellous type, I rationally understand that he is just looking for visual stimulation and he doesn't frequent stripbars, so what's the big deal? I just find it difficult to understand that he will jerk off earlier in the day knowing that we have sometime together in the evening. I am in great shape, 27, no kids, successful career. When I go out with friends guys hit on us, at work too. I love him but what is the issue? He's not gay or even freaky-freaky.. I know the sites he goes to . Most of the girls are plain and chubby, shot of disposible film. I even told him that I would load some undisclosed pictures of me on his favourite sites. He didn't like this. Why is it okay for him to get pleasure watching someone else's girlfriend, but doesn't want anyone to look at me?

[Raidenator]

The thing is, guys masturbate when they get bored. That's a lot of it. Most of the time when I check up on some porn is when I have nothing else to do. I'll just be hanging out with a night off and say, "Hey, it feels good, let's do it."

I wouldn't judge him for wanting to look at porn. It has nothing to do with a dislike for you, it's just what guys do I guess.

Also, don't upload any porn onto the web. Give it to him fine, but not on the internet. I wouldn't like the idea of a bunch of guys wanking over my girlfriend either. Though it is a bit hypocritical.

[EvilEvilKitten]

I have no idea how much the average man looks at pornography.
There has been a study made somewhere by someone, no doubt - google it!

It really is NO BIG DEAL however so don't get angry with him about it.
It may just be "a guy thing".

Why be jealous? Especially over something that is not real. Total waste of time. He's with you isn't he?

[DruityLoops]

sometimes i have a thing against porn cus its kind of like 'why are you looking at it arent a good enough for you?'
but at least my boyfriend doesnt hide it and we make jokes about the porn mags lying around that he buys for his brother cus he isnt quite of age yet.
i try to stay open minded and try to tell myself that its harmless unless it starts interfering with your relationship. but if it is really bugging you, just ask him about cus guys view pornography differently to women

[wellmannered_squirrel]

I'd say it's not much the fact of watching porn that can be alarming but rather the incapacity to understand that it is fiction.

The thing that surprises me the most everytime I browse this forum is the amount of people (obviously young people) not tracing the line between porn and reality.

[Tallman]

Ill put on my average guy hat for a moment.

When i was younger (14-18) porn was great, mostly funny something to laugh about. Im talking friday night after a night out with the lads at the pub ordering pizza and sticking on sky for the free preview and laughing at it. I think 2 lesbians and a plumber (great title) was the funniest that i still remember to this day because Rio ferdinand (english footballer) so looked like the guy from it.

Since then i've had little interest in searching it out online, i like looking at women definitely but very often porn films are just utter garbage and more rutting with stupid tricks than anything else. You cant get away from scantily clad women in the media and on the internet now so you dont really have to look far for the softer stuff. Some people have entire hard drives full of porn they've downloaded though so men do differ as to their interest in it.

Only worry about it if it becomes something he likes over you, most women ive spoken to dont like porn at all and doing it yourself (without the stupid photocopier/sink/[insert other porn set]) is far more entertaining and beneficial.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Oh please - pornography is BORING which is pretty much what Tallman said. They know it isn't "real".
And no they really are NOT comparing you to those manufactured women they see on the screen and face it - they'll make pornography out of any old damn thing: dogs, sheep, donkeys, - it is pathetic more than anything else. Heck, they even sell farm tractors with scantily clad women draped over them. "She thinks my tractor's sexy." Egad.

Men can be such simple creatures sometimes! LOL