Watching wife with others

[MisriTrkr]

I enjoy seeing my wife get pleasured by others. It is an exceptional turn-on and I enjoy taking her afterward. We used to enjoy a variety of partners but then began a Christian life. I miss many of the tings we enjoyed and feel that they are not against religion when done openly and together. Any thoughts or comments?

[Brandye]

I do believe that the Christian marriage ceremony has something about "forsaking all others" and a commandment that deals with adultery. I am not a Christian but was raised in one of the "most Christian" (and sexually repressive, parts of Europe.

Those issues needing sorting out with regard to religion need to be sorted out with those who share your views. The input you will get here may or may not square with the beliefs of a "Christian Life," whatever that may mean to you. I have known plenty of philandering Christians who simply nod in assent when the preacher promises damnation for adultery.

[MisriTrkr]

Actually the Bible says to leave the parents, and forsaking all others, cleave one unto another. I believe this to mean living as a family separately from parental influence. I have known so many (both women and men) that will not move away from their mother or father and let them influence all of their decisions in life.
My wife and I (47 and 48 yo) enjoy toys and many other forms of play. When we go out I love for her to get dressed as trampy as possible and show off. She still likes to do that when we can get away from our small community, but the other fun part of an alternative sex life is slowly fading. Both of us can be quite bi in the right situation also.
This brings up another question...Why do so many find the idea of a MMF group disgusting? We have always preferred that.

[sera300]

Listen, I am Catholic...you both are adults. You have to be happy with your lives. It only comes around once...live it. Just do nothing to harm other's...Be happy!

[Engage!]

I am most likely the far right religious conservative on this forum....

I don't know how you could stand to see your wife involved with someone else. I don't want to share! Also, I do believe that marriage is forever, and that sex outside of marriage is a sin. However, my wife and I also accept that we both have had our lovers before marriage, but that we made mistakes and now that we're with each other we've made the right choice.

And what part of "You shall not commit adultery" do you not understand? I'm not going to preach at you, but I think that the Bible expressly forbids sex outside of marriage.

[EvilEvilKitten]

The point about adultery is BETRAYAL.
Now then, if they are both together in this - where's the betrayal?
BTW why did you begin a Christain life in the first place? The joy of an alternative life fading - was that the reason? If so, you have done the bi-polar thing and gone to the other end of the spectrum rather than being moderate about it. You're missing certain aspects of the alternative lifestyle indicates that not all of the issues/desires have been resolved.

I'd recommend relaxing your way from one to the other lifestyles. If you two want to play every now and again fine; if you don't that's fine too. Relax. No one on earth is qualified to judge you. Take "baby steps".

I think MMFs are great fun! But some men are possessive. Some men believe that a woman's honor rests between her legs instead of in her heart and mind.There are men who think otherwise and fully 5%, I think the last survey said, of the married population of the US swings in one form or another.

[HardNgood]

there is a blog from a couple who have been around the "net" for a very long time...I'll post the url but it may get removed by the mod's...this JOE guy is the real thing, he totally 100% is into sharing and his wife is onboard...I'm not man enough to accept this, but read their history and you might understand more..
http://deesjoe.blogspot.com/

[rdan05]

If you were enjoying it before why the sudden change? Many people live alternative lifestyles, why the shift? Does not make sense, find ways to rid yourself of the guilt that drove you to the extreme.

[just_jonesin]

As a life-long Roman Catholic, I have found so far that there is no clear Christian answer to this question. First I would like to clarify that while Engage stated the belief that marriage is forever, Scripture states clearly that marriage is until death, at which point the surviving spouse is free to marry again.
Another thing to consider is that words in one language do not necessarily translate to another language easily. The word "adultery" in the original Scripture actually refers to the stealing of another man's wife. At the same time, however, if we take into account our cultural meaning of adultery, this is where we can fall into a gray area. While marriage is an exclusive relationship, does that mean that watching your wife being pleased by somebody else is adultery if all parties are in agreement and are consenting adults? Or is adultery confined to the betrayal of cheating without the knowledge of the cheater's partner? I have had the fantasy for years of watching my wife...not being pleasured by another man, but rather pleasing herself by means of another man. She says no way. She takes the stand that marriage rules such behavior out. After fifteen years of marriage, things do get dull, but what is there to do to spice things up and still remain faithful to Christian tenets? If anyone can provide an answer to this, millions of Christians all over the world will be deeply indebted.

[EvilEvilKitten]

Doing a different scenario of sexual techniques - mix them up.
Sometimes oral, sometimes not etc.
Body worship, massage, erotic massage, variouspositions, various times - just never the same set sequence of events each tie. Try to give eachother multiple orgasms - that should keep you busy!

BTW it is not "stealing" if the other man gives her back.