Pleasing her - I just cant do it anymore!

[fancyhead]

i am so frustrated and its killin me! when i first got married about 4 and a half years ago I could turn my wife on with ease. Now it seems like I no matter what I do I do wrong. I just cant do it anymore. I cant perform oral correct or i cant figure out how to finger her to get her aroused some one please help. I have tried to play with her clit to turn her along with kissing and sucking her nipples but it just doesnt work. and i just cant find her g-spot, i have just about given up on that. i really need help. I am so obsessed with pleasing her that it has consumed my life, its all i think about. well hope you guys can help me here

[sera300]

She needs to show you what works, it's a two way street. You are not on a "search & find" mission.
Read the post Evilevilkitten wrote in this aobut locating the G-spot:
http://www.sexinfo101.com/forum/plea...tml#post188396

[anotheranon11]

Also, remember, you've had 4.5 years of basically the same stuff. Spice it up a bit...

[EvilEvilKitten]

Okay - it is time for the advanced education portion of the lesson.

1. learn how to give massages - get a book and practice, practice, practice - first regular masages and then "stroking the bones"
2. learn to do body worship
3. cunnilingus is just body worship focused upon the one area so see above
4. the G-Spot is not hard to find - you want the washboard area on the roof of the vagina - feel your way to it then lightly stroke upwards sliding along this area using just the fingertips of two to three fingers
5. do 3 and then combine 3 and 4 simultaneously
6. substitute the well-lubed head of your penis for your fingers and massage her G-Spot with it if you need to use a finger alongside of your penis to find it again - do it
7. using the head of your penis, find the cervix, slide under it and find the posterior fornix way in the back and massage that area pressing downward
8. take your time, practice ALOT, explore and experiment - learn to LISTEN to her body and work on a smooth transition between the numbers above, learn to talk to her - telling her how erotic, beautiful, sensual she is and how good she feels and how good she makes you feel etc etc etc

If you have done this correctly she'll be screaming for you by the time you're done with #2. And will have multiple orgasms - first clitoral, then G-Spot, and finally, vaginal. Then you may have your own orgasm.

BTW - thank you, sera!

[bruins76]

ITA, when you've had the same person all these years, the stuff that used to do it, doesn't. It's nothing personal, it's just the way it is. It's time to bring out the big dogs. It's time to make things different. Role play, massages, a romantic getaway, they have books about that stuff. I'm glad to see that you're trying & you want to please her, it's just something you have to understand is nothing personal, although it's difficult not to think that way.

Hope that helps you in the right direction.

GL

[EvilEvilKitten]

PFFT! He's only been married for 5 years and you think that's a long time?!?!
That's nothing!

Buddy, neither you nor your wife have any idea of what you two are capable of - yet. Follow the program below and see if that doesn't get her engines going. It might even get her thinking about what else she'd like to try!

BTW yes it is personal - it is those ideas regarding sex that are in her head, or something within the relationship, or something's wrong with her medically (stress?), or any of the above.

After doing the porgram as detailed bleow - TALK TO HER ABOUT IT

[vingo]

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[fancyhead]

ok guys Now i have tried it all. just like everyone suggested. I ran her a warm bubble bath, put lotion on her, then i gave her a full body massage, kissed her from head to toe then fingered her while kissing very gently, next i ate her out for about half an hour then found what i think is her g-spot but she said that just didnt feel good, so i found the posterior fornix and it still didnt work. so i finally got her turned on, but the only way i could get to climax was IC. I found out she is under alotta stress. is there any way i can make her relax enough to make her orgasm in other ways than IC. and thanks for replys

[LadyBug02]

Originally Posted by fancyhead

ok guys Now i have tried it all. just like everyone suggested. I ran her a warm bubble bath, put lotion on her, then i gave her a full body massage, kissed her from head to toe then fingered her while kissing very gently, next i ate her out for about half an hour then found what i think is her g-spot but she said that just didnt feel good, so i found the posterior fornix and it still didnt work. so i finally got her turned on, but the only way i could get to climax was IC. I found out she is under alotta stress. is there any way i can make her relax enough to make her orgasm in other ways than IC. and thanks for replys

She definitely needs to get the stress problem fixed. There are various ways to go about doing this. It ranges from everything from better diet and nutrition to simply helping her relax when she gets home from work. However, if the stress is too much, you might want to have her see a doctor about getting on some anti-depressants or something. Unfortunately, many anti-depressants (but not all) can affect your sex drive.

[EvilEvilKitten]

OK - next TALK to her. Stress? Why the stress? What is SHE doing to fix this problem?