Vasectomy anyone???

[bruins76]

My DH is having a vasectomy this Friday, we have 3 kids & another one on the way. I am worried about the recovery for this. The doc said he could resume normal sexual function in a week (or when he was ready) & that it's unlikely but he may feel some slight throbbing in his testicle area for a while when he ejaculates.

We have a decent sex life, it's about 4 times a month (on average), I'd like it way more but he has a lower drive than me. I am worried that after this procedure that he wants it less.

Also, should I just "assume" that he wants to have sex in one week & make the move or should I wait until he comes to me to want it??? I don't want to be insensitive of his needs regarding this whole issue.

WDYT???

~C

[Brandye]

Following a vasectomy there should be no change in his sex drive. The testes will still produce testosterone and that is what drives men. Sperm production will gradually taper off with some reabsorbed into his system until sperm production ceases.

Semen is produced in the vesicles and prostate. You will notice about a ten percent reduction in what ends up in you. Not really noticeable. The consistency, taste and smell will not change.

Remember that it takes several ejaculations to "clear the tubes" but with your being pregnant, that does not matter. He may feel a bit sensitive for a while but there is nothing wrong with your taking charge and climbing his bones. Let him know that he is still desireable even if firing blanks. This has rarely but really been an issue with men feeling less virile because they cannot impregnate anyone.

[bruins76]

Yeah, he has major personal issues w/ firing blanks, which is why it took me so long to convince him. But then I said "I don't want more kids so if you ever want to have sex again you have to take care of things b/c since I've pushed out 2 & about to do another, I am not going under the knife for something that you can take care of in less than 15 minutes"... after about 2 months of this conversation he made the apt himself & that was that. I was/am so proud of him. He's slightly nervous but I think he's not being as honest about his feeling's about it. If anything, I am more nervous that his drive will reduce. The doc told us that "if" a drive is reduced it's b/c the man has a mental block but it's not physical that would make them have less of a drive. So that's reassuring.

Yeah... I specifically said "since I am preggers, take care of it now, that way the entire time it take's for you to clean out your system of the spermies, you wont have to worry since I am already pregnant"...hence why when I discovered my pregnancy I was pushing for him to do it so much.

I have also signed up for my tubes to be tied "IF" I have to have a c-section, otherwise I am not having it done. I've had 2 vaginal deliveries & I anticipate the same w/ this one, however "IF" something happens that I have to have it, then I am gonna do it too. I just didn't opt to have it done as a speparate procedure when I am not there for my stomach to be cut, no need for it unless necessary.

[Brandye]

Bruins,

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