How to leave my girlfriend?

[evobyte]

I can't be with this girl because outta of all the stuff that's happening... How do you leave a person that you love? I can't even go half a day without talking to this girl lol...It's like I get the heart pounding feeling. Everytime I try to leave her she comes to my house and starts hugging me talking to me blah blah blah! I know its best for me to leave her but I dont want to let go !!! UGGHHH help

[sera300]

You just end it and stop seeing her. Ask her not to call or stop by. Period. Life goes on, trust me!

[curious_woman]

Why do you want to leave her in the first place if you "love" her?

[Engage!]

Sometimes you think that all the problems you have mean that you should leave. In reality, it's just life throwing you a test. If you love this girl, your love and dedication should be strong enough to overcome the problems. Ask yourself: What do you want? Do you like her? Do you love her? Is she worth the trouble? Why in your opinion is it best for you to leave?

You need to weigh your options. I can't tell you what to do because I'm not in your shoes, but from the way it sounds and from the little info you give, my vote would be for you to stay with her.

[Massdebator]

I've left a girl I loved very much because she cheated on me over and over again, and eventually, I gave up on her lack of will power. I've also left a girl I loved who lied to me constantly, and I couldn't handle the lack of trust in the relationship. It seems that my current relationship might be going this way too if something doesn't change soon (lying). There are some who say if you leave them, you never loved them, or that love is the enjoyment of the whole of a person, including their faults. Sometimes though, people change their behaviors or do things that hurt you and/or the relationship. These new, destructive behaviors or tendencies are outside of the "faults" you've come to love.

It's important that you make sure that you've done everything in your power so that you and your love understand your problem(s) and have attempted to save your love before you leave her. If her love is strong enough, she will stop hurting you and you might be able to salvage the relationship. Don't fight your love for her. That is folly, because that might never go away. Unfortunately, relationships aren't as durable as love.

[dancingdoc2]

Engage presents a good argument, however, I must disagree.

The whole purpose of dating is to sample what humanity has to offer us in potential mates. That we date someone more than a few times or only once, is to make a decision for whatever reason, that s/he is not Mr. or Ms. Right. If two people are not compatible or are at odds on too many matters, then why stay and try to make it work? Continue to date and learn about people and to find one or two to date longer than just a few introductory dates. Once you have one or two, continue the relationship and narrow the playing field to just one. If you find her, then move the relationship to the next level. If after working on the relationship for a while it seems not be be progressing, then stop it and go back to dating. It's the way the world revolves.

[sera300]

Originally Posted by dancingdoc2

Engage presents a good argument, however, I must disagree.

The whole purpose of dating is to sample what humanity has to offer us in potential mates. That we date someone more than a few times or only once, is to make a decision for whatever reason, that s/he is not Mr. or Ms. Right. If two people are not compatible or are at odds on too many matters, then why stay and try to make it work? Continue to date and learn about people and to find one or two to date longer than just a few introductory dates. Once you have one or two, continue the relationship and narrow the playing field to just one. If you find her, then move the relationship to the next level. If after working on the relationship for a while it seems not be be progressing, then stop it and go back to dating. It's the way the world revolves.

I wish more read this and took it with a serious attitude! Too often many get into wrong relationships, try to make them work as if they are married, and wind up with a disaster in the end!

[EvilEvilKitten]

Guys - the easiest way to leave a relationship is to get her to leave you.
The best way to get her to leave you is to contradict everything she says.

[learning]

Sorry, but the best way out of a relationship is to grow a pair and tell her it is over!

If you want complications down the line then start playing mind games.

Why is it so difficult to be open and honest, not only with other but with ourselves too!??

[evobyte]

She is 30, she has a kid, she is an escort.... She lie's to me about many things and trys to keep saying she is not lieing for instense. I know she was out escorting 1 nite I called her house at 2am her mom said she was sleeping I went to her house and 3 and didnt see her car there so I went to get soemthing to eat got back on the highway at 3:55 I see her car on the other side of the highway driving home. So anyway she has to take her mom to work every morning at 4 am so I called her at 4:05 and I said where were you, you didnt call me when you got home she said ohh I was just really tired I got home at 2:30 went to bed and just woke up.. You wouldn't lie to me right she said never!! I said what ever she said err you always think I am lieing mike always .... So she always does **** like this constantly! Ok also she doesnt have papers to be an american cit! BUT IM IN LUV UGHH we havent seen eachother in a week but we have been talking some! And my heart hurts so bad I wish I was stronger! But it's so hard and it's not like she is even trying to drive to my house and stop all this! Which I want her to come to me and try to fix everything and say im sorry!!!!